He can't do this. She can't do that. The list of what your injured parent can't do now may seem quite long. And because he can't do something, then maybe you can't do something or you have to do more to help. There have been a lot of changes since the deployment, but the same chores have to be done and you may be thinking — who's going to do them? It's not all your responsibility but you may have new or different responsibilities than before. Figure out with your parents what makes sense for you to do and what really isn't a good thing for you to take on.