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Life while he’s gone

She will miss him.

She will miss his laugh and bright smile … his presence. She will miss how, when he walks into a room their two boys, Kellan and Carter, light up and run to him yelling, “Daddy!”

He’ll miss the family routine. He’ll miss 7 o’clock, after he’s read the boys a story and put them to bed. He’ll miss when it’s just the two of them, curled up together on the off-white sofa watching their shows together — the married with kids version of a date.

This summer while Lance Cpl. Tom Geoco is supporting the war in Afghanistan, his wife Ashley will be giving birth to their third child.

This summer while Lance Cpl. Tom Geoco is supporting the war in Afghanistan, his wife Ashley will be giving birth to their third child.

As much as he’ll miss his wife, with her unconditional love, he’ll miss those boys. They’re at the ages where the world is just starting to come into focus for them. He could watch them explore all day, showing them things along the way — their tour guide to life.

He’ll miss being there for the boys and he won’t be there for her. He won’t be there for the odd cravings as her stomach swells. He won’t get to rush her to the hospital and hold her hand, telling her he loves her. And he won’t be there to hear that first small cry as his newest son, Cameron, comes into the world.

This summer while Lance Cpl. Tom Geoco is supporting the war in Afghanistan, his wife Ashley will be giving birth to their third child.
The couple has some experience with this. Geoco was in boot camp when his second son was born. He first saw Carter the day he became a Marine. Though this is slightly different, this time he’s at war.

Sweethearts since freshman year at Glendale Community College in Arizona, the two 23-year-olds hadn’t planned on bringing another child into the world while separated, but as a military family they understand. He knew this was a possibility when he enlisted. She knew this was a possibility when she first saw him proudly wearing his uniform.

It’s not only the sacrifice of the Marine but of the people who make him whole: the worried parents, the loving siblings, the lifelong friends, the expectant mother and unborn son — all the pieces of a family.

Geoco’s life will change in an instant. Cameron will grow as summer fades to fall. For now, his boys will have to explore the world without daddy there to show them the way.

While he’s gone, life at home goes on.

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  • Gunner

    I have lost track of the number of times I have been away from my family. After all the deployments it still hurts leaving. My wife will give birth while I am deployed again. I can’t explain just how strong our families are. Thank you all

  • Janet

    I am not military but employed by DOD. I am deploying end of this month for 6 months, first time out. I am leaving 2 teenage girls behind and that is quite difficult for me. We are a blended family so this is pretty tough on my girl but i have to make her understand this is part of my job. Her older brother is also deployed so she freaks a bit.
    Ashley I feel your sadness from both ends, being the deployed and being the mother of children while the parent goes away. They have a great dad so this makes my journey much easier to deal with.
    I am a Navy brat and know what it is like to have the say good bye but there is no better feeling then the hello when things are said and done.
    God Bless the soldiers as well as all the civilians that put their lifes in a not so freindly situation because we do what we can to back our soldiers and help keep them safe in the long run.

  • Mary D

    Thank you, Seargant for your service.
    Thanks for the article.
    I am a NavyMom.
    My son is in the States back from his 1stdeployment.
    Not in harms way.
    But he is one of our 9 children.
    The only one far away from home,clear across this country.
    We miss him.

    Articles like this help us take a moment,
    talk about how much we miss him.It helps us
    realize we are not the only ones with a loved one away from home.
    We pray every night at dinner for those in the service
    with special mention to those in harm’s way.

  • Sharon

    beautiful story! My husband spent 2 1/2 years in Iraq and we are now awaiting his next deployment to Afghanistan. It was a little tough with just me and the two kids, but we somehow made it through. It was awesome to be able to speak almost everyday through Skype! He has been home since April and these months have been great for all of us to get know each other again and re-establish our bonds. Not sure when he’s leaving again, but we’ll enjoy the time we have together right now!

  • Dan Pratt

    This is very touching. I am just about to leave for Paris Island myself,and I am going up to Illinois to see my girlfriend for one last time before boot. She has been very close to me these past 5 years and helping me with my Father and Uncles death. Ironically my girlfriends name is also Ashley, though the distance has separated us I know that our love will always last. I love her almost as much as I love the Corp. Good luck with the baby. God bless!!! Semper Fi!

  • Katrice McCormick

    I love America’s Battalion. I helped so many of these men and their families get their gear for CAX and PTA while they were gearing up for this deployment while I was working at the uniform shop on base. Good luck Ashley. Remember that there are people thinking about our Marine families as well as the Marines at war right now. We pray for you all.

  • Selina Gibson

    This is touching…my son was also born while his Dad, a Marine, was deployed to Iraq in 2007. He was our first and only child. It’s sad because he will never be able to live out the experiences that go along with having a pregnant wife and the birth of his first child. I’m glad to have found this…I know there are many women out there that experience this but we are still a special group with enormous strength!! Good luck Ashley!! You will do great!!