Army Warns of Internet Romance Scams


March 25, 2010

In Family Matters, we often focus on issues relating to already established military families, but today we’d like to draw attention to what started it all: dating, and the new dangers that poses. With more and more singles looking to the Internet to find that “special someone,” the U.S. Army is now urging the public to beware of romance scams perpetrated by criminals pretending to be U.S. soldiers.

Dating-Quote-BoxThe U.S. Army Criminal Investigation Command on Fort Belvoir, Va., has received so many reports of Internet romance scams involving criminals posing as soldiers that it is now warning that many Internet romance sites that promise true love “only end up breaking hearts and bank accounts.”

The CID issued its warning in an Army News article “CID Warns of Internet Romance Scams”  that describes the scams that typically focus on female victims and prey on their emotions and patriotism.

“We are seeing a number of scams being perpetrated on the Internet, especially on social, dating-type Web sites where females are the main target,” said Chris Grey, CID spokesman.

In particular, women should be suspicious if they begin a relationship on the Internet with someone claiming to be an American soldier and find that within a matter of weeks, the alleged soldier is asking for money or marriage, said Grey.

The criminals frequently pretend to be U.S. servicemen and usually claim to be serving in Iraq or Afghanistan, said Grey. The perpetrators often will take the true rank and name of a soldier who is honorably serving his country somewhere in the world, marry that up with some photographs of a soldier pulled off of the Internet, and then build a false identity before starting to prowl the Internet for victims.

“We’ve even seen instances where the perpetrators are asking the victims for money to ‘purchase leave papers’ from the Army or help pay for their flight home so they can leave the war zone,” Grey said.

To date, there have been no reports to CID indicating that any U.S. servicemembers themselves have suffered any financial loss as a result of these impersonators, but the agency notes it is a form of identity theft.

 CID offers up these suggestions on what to look out for:

– If you do start an Internet-based relationship with someone, check them out, research what they are telling you with someone who would know, such as a current or former servicemember;

– Be very suspicious if you never get to actually speak with the person on the phone or are told you cannot write or receive letters in the mail. Servicemen serving overseas will often have an APO or FPO mailing address. Internet or not, servicemembers always appreciate a letter in the mail;

– Be extremely suspicious if you are asked for money for transportation costs, communication fees or marriage processing and medical fees;

– Many of the negative claims made about the military and the supposed lack of support and services provided to troops overseas are far from reality — check the facts.

– Be aware of common spelling, grammatical or language errors in the e-mails.

For more information on Internet romance scams please visit the Federal Trade Commission’s “Fighting Identity Theft” Web site, the U.S. Army Criminal Investigation Command’s Web site,  and the Internet Crime Complaint Center.

If you think you might be a victim of an Internet romance scam or other types of identity theft, report it to the Federal Trade Commission by calling 1-877-ID-THEFT (438-4338) or contacting the FTC online .


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  • sunshine

    I wish I read this information 2 months ago. What you described above was exactly what happened to me. I met someone online; they claimed to be a deployed soldier; the pictures were definately real and not from a modeling agency. So I’m also led to believe that the person in picture is real and simply had their identity stolen by the scammers. Very sad

  • Daciaroate

    Sunshine,
        I am pretty sure I am going through the same thing at the moment.  Can you give me some examples of what happened to you?  Some of the things mentioned in the above article holds true to many things I have saved on my email. 

  • Daciaroate

    yeah sunshine, i thinks i am in the middle of the same situation.  i also met this one online as well.  i also have pics of him and he talks to me everyday for 2-3 hrs a day twice a day.  he had me request leave for him and the emails they are wanting a huge amount of money.  I am not sending of course.  How did you confront this particular person? 

  • Daciaroate

    i am pretty sure i am in the same situtaion as sunshine.  i have the pics of him, and i was asked to request leave for him and now they are asking for an extremely amout of money for tax for him to leave the war zone.  after reviewing the emails i have received there is alot of mis spelled words and one email had wrong rank, wrong last name as well

  • L Robinson

    i met a guy online claiming to be a soldier in kabul afganistan and quickly wanted to marry me and then he asked for $600 for a leave form to get out of the army.
    I had some quick suspicions so i started googling it. and find out many women are being scammed. i have not confronted him yet…. but its gonna be fun when i do.. because i will be totally leading him on and then boom no $ for you.. lol 

  • guest

    This is happening to me as well. I haven’t confronted him yet but I will just not sure how to handle it. He wants money for leave papers and then he will give me his bonus???? Crazy!

  • Cornsilk11

    I am a single male in the USA who was lured in by a FEMALE soldier… and same story, need to get out of military coming to see me. All from one hit off a dating website. Never sent money, feel like an idiot. Pictures were real so I don’t know who she really is or if they know. Just hope my identity is still intact even if my dignity isn’t.

  • Sparkle

    It happened to me.  I was asked for £500 to purchase a secure telecom phone through western union.   As soon as cash was mentioned I knew something was not right.  He then directed me to false website riddled with poor grammatical errors.  He found me on a UK dating site.  I have since reported him to the website.  I hope they do something about it before he catches someone more emotionally vulnerable than myself.

  • Jo forte

    I’m a female based in the UK and too have been contacted by a ‘US soldier’ in the last 4 weeks. All the usual bad grammar and phrasing one would not expect from an E6 officer! I too was asked to complete a leave form and return to a bogus email address, none of which I did.
    I have 6 pictures of the soldier and wonder where these scammers are going to specifically on the net to obtain personal photos of soldiers in uniform!
    Even if you log into the Facebook, MySpace accounts you don’t know what photos as individual holds without trawling through each account – millions! who has that sort of time?

    Jo.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_O4VFQDEKOP5T7HTLYWKWA36GAA Vicky

    Happening to me right as I type this these guys want $1500:(

  • Hspring75

    yep..I feel as if the same thing is happening to me as well.  So sad..I really liked the guy..some of his story added up and some of it didn’t.  And then he asked me to send $$ to pay for his airfare (because there’s much I don’t understand)..it was all very sad and strange.  I can’t help but feel a little heartbroken.

  • Cowgrlatitude

    Is there a place to report these scammers so the soldier can be protected? Obviously our Military Personnel have enough to deal with, without having there pictures and identities stolen and used to scam people online. As the mother of a US Army Soldier, I would like to do my part to help protect our Military Personnel,
    Thank you.

  • Ms Blueeyes69

    Well it is happening to me. All I would like to know is where the get the photos. It is not fair to the soldiers or to us that answer. Please people be careful.

  • Christina Frudd

    hi i like you was contacted by a US soldier but saddly its to late for me he has taken thousands of GB pounds from me  he totally hoodwinked me at a time when i was at my most lowest in my life due to the loss of my late husband the year before he promised to come to  the uk but he never turned up my family dont know i have had to keep it to myself as i am so ashamed of what i let happen to me im not some nit-wit but i just thought he was for real  and when i said i would not send anymore he just stopped contact   i have reported it to the fraud squad but i wont see the money again but what is worse for me is the heartbreak he has left behind i WILL never ever get myself in that situation again never trust again  i have not given the full account of what happened as it just makes me upset at what i let happen to me  

  • Marie196846

    I too believe this is happening to me. I met an amazing guy who showered we with compliments, poetry and promises of true love. Two weeks ago he requested I purchase a satellite phone for him. I refused when I saw the money has to be sent Western Union. I work in the financial field and know this is where alot of scammers ask money to be sent from. I confronted my “soldier” and told him I was concerned about being scammed. At first he got angry and told me I didn’t keep my promise to do anything for him. Yesterday he asked me to send his General an email requesting him to come home because of our upcoming wedding. I know this sounded funny but I set up a fake email and sent the request. Today I received a response back from “the General” stating that my soldier could come home. I would, however, have to send money to do this. I again told my soldier friend that I cannot send money. He got a little short with me and said I didn’t care about him and he said he had to go. I am going to forward this email to a local army recruiter for him to verify but I am sure it will end up being a scam. Sad because I really thought I found my soul mate.

  • Terrifetty

    Please don’t feel bad as i am reading this post it just confirmed to me that I too got scammed. I gave money too because I truly thought this person loved me and wanted to be with me.  I will forgive myself and go on, and pray for that person”s soul.

  • Paw1325

    Amen! Thank you for this article! I am a current victim with enough common sense to not send anyone any money! He asked me for $500.00 yesterday…then my grown son sent me this article…I am sending it on to the scammer so he knows we are after him!
    God Bless our troops.

  • Kimberly Ascano

    My God! This is the same story as mine. I met him in facebook and almost everyday we share love thoughts and feelings for each other. I met him last June and now he will be on leave from deployment but asking me to send the replacement officer fee which I have not yet sent through western union. 

    Kim

  • Brodie1970browneyes

    Hi Kim, I was wondering if you could help me, im also talking to someone I met on a dating site, he said he is a USA sgt, who is he Iraq at moment and I have been talking top him for over a year now and is ment to be coming home to me at christmas, but like you he has asked for funds for his replacement officer. Im so confused and dont know wot to do, if you could tell me is there any way I can check up on him to see if he is for real. Thank you
    Carrie in Cornwall

  • Brodie1970browneyes

    Hello Darla…..Im also talking to someone in the USA army who say he is based out in Iraq.
    would love to stay in touch with you also please

  • Kirsten Usman

    You have to be very careful anytime you talk to someone online.  Always remember that if something seems too good to be true, than it probably is.  Don’t give out your personal information to anyone!  Take things really slow, you never should feel rushed.

  • Sylvia_136

    Dear Marie,
    I feel things are going the same way for me….I am skeptical ! Thought this must be true love but I wonder in my mind. How do we check if this is for real or fake ? So confused……

  • Sylvia_136

    How & what can be done to stop this ! Hearts are getting broken and lives are being destroyed. What are they thinking….I guess they just don’t. How can we all help by posting emails ? picture ? Something has got to give. If any one knows how I can truly check it out to see who’s for real or a scam ….please email me !

  • Riogal

    wow, i read all these story.i have met two different men on skype claiming to be a general, first one was a usa army general and the next one was last week claiming to be a German general from isaf and nato i watch his videos all week fell hard for him then he called me some how on video using a you tube video just for a second it  was him but he did not look like he was there for me,but wrote me alls this sweet stuff right off he wanted to marry me,and of course who would not want a general and a good looking one at that but when i talk to him on skype his accent was that of a African so i comforted him he got mad i told him i was going to contact this general and he block me right then, he had a skype account with a Ghana address he delete that one.i have wrote nato and isaf both about this, i hope they tell the general.

  • Sevin1967

    Thank God I found you guys! I was going to western union tomorrow morning with 3 GRAND. God bless each and every one of you.