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Master Sgt. Sonya Couture, an Afghan Air Force aviation life support adviser with the 438th Air Expeditionary Wing, discusses a training program with AAF life support section leaders at Kabul International Airport in Kabul, Afghanistan, Sept., 4, 2011. (U.S. Air Force photo/Staff Sgt. Matthew Smith)
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Never stop trying

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Commentary by Master Sgt. Sonya L. Couture
438th Air Expeditionary Wing


9/6/2011 - KABUL, Afghanistan (AFNS) -- As Sept. 11 approaches, I find myself once again in Afghanistan, this time for a year. This mission is different from the last. Instead of supporting missions to "seek out and destroy the enemy," I am here to train members of the Afghan Air Force on how to do my job: aircrew flight equipment. I'm also teaching them how to manage their people and resources as well as how to solve problems on their own. I assure you, it's not an easy task with their lack of classroom education and cultural differences.

Thinking back on where I was and what I was doing on 9/11, I'm reminded of the pain and anger I felt at such a senseless act. On 9/11, I saw every one of "them" as the enemy. My anger was boiling over and I wanted all of them eradicated from this earth. I'm sure many others felt the same way as they watched the horrors unfold on the news, replayed repeatedly. What came to mind later as I calmed down were the millions of innocent men, women and children who had nothing to do with these acts of terrorism. I slowly began to realize that 9/11 was not the work of all the people who are Muslim or from the Middle East, but the work of small extremist groups. I reserved my anger for the ones responsible, the factions and groups of extremist Muslims who hate Americans and wish to see us die. I consciously decided it was not right to judge them all on the actions of a few.

However, on April 27 this year, nine of my friends and coworkers were killed by one of the Afghans we were training. It was by far the single most horrifying experience of my life. My reaction of rage and disbelief was very similar to my feelings on 9/11. I felt an overwhelming anger that sickened me. Why did my friends have to die so senselessly? I felt myself looking at every Afghan I saw with pure hatred.

After the shootings, I struggled to regain my enthusiasm for what I was doing here. How could I help these people, not knowing if their secret agenda was to kill me? On my first day back to work it was clear that "my" Afghans had no such intentions toward me. The sadness and pain in their eyes told me what I needed to know. They feared I would hate them for their fellow comrade's actions and decide to no longer help them. As much as I wanted to, I couldn't hold it against them. These men didn't kill my friends. They were trying their best to do what any of us would want: to make a better life for themselves, their family and their country.

Weeks later during a conversation with my Afghan interpreter, I asked him if he thought his country would ever be able to get rid of the Taliban, Al-Qaeda and the warlords who ravage the country. Were we here for nothing, wasting our time and money? He asked me if the U.S. has ever been able to get rid of all its "bad guys," those who rob, rape and murder.
"No", I said. "Of course not, but we will always keep trying to make it better."

"That's all we are trying to do as well," he responded.

His simple statement stuck with me. They should have the chance to try and make a better world for themselves, for the good men who are weak to become strong and capable of fighting the evil men.

I see the innocent children smiling and waving excitedly, giving us the "thumbs up" as we convoy down the dirty streets of Kabul. We are hope to them and their future. I visit injured children in the hospital and absorb some of the positive, radiant energy they each have despite their injuries and constant struggles. These kids deserve to have a better life. The men I am training are trying to make this a better place for their families, the same thing we strive for every day, and I am proud to be a part of it.

On Sept. 11 at an Afghan Air Force base, we will read the names of the 3,000-plus victims who died on that day and raise our flag in their honor. Who would have ever thought we would get to this point? As we pay tribute to and honor those who lost their lives on that day, let us not forget how blessed we are to be citizens of the United States. It is by the grace of God that we did not find ourselves born into a country such as Afghanistan where life is harder and more uncertain than we could ever imagine.

In February next year, I will be on my way home to my family. I will leave this country behind and wish them well in their endeavors to become a better, stronger country. Nothing can change what happened on Sept. 11, 2001, nor bring back the loved ones, family and friends who were lost then or during the war that followed. All we can do is continue to honor their memory, to never forget and to keep fighting for something more -- a better world so this never happens again. We will never be able to wipe out all of the "bad guys" in this world, but that doesn't mean we should ever stop trying.



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9/13/2011 4:47:40 PM ET
Dear Realistic. I want to respond to your way out of line remarks to this Master Sergeant's excellent commentary. What is your point That military members should rant and rave about missions they are asked to perform I was a squadron and group commander and I sure as heck did not want whiners like you in my units. People like MSgt Couture on the other hand would be a pleasure to lead. Please accept the fact that those of us in uniform or who have been in uniform take on the missions we have been assigned. If that is not your cup of tea please take the uniform off. It is an all volunteer force.
Jim H retired colonel, Omaha
 
9/13/2011 10:30:07 AM ET
Your story is inspiring and I thank you for sharing. The hope you have for the future and the faith you have in your mission are encouraging. Stay safe throughout the rest of your deployment and thank you for your service.
Laura, Columbia Md.
 
9/9/2011 6:45:57 AM ET
Well put MSgt Cotoure.Realistic I understand you may have your own view on the efforts in Afghanistan that stem from pesonal loss or religious and political views. You have the right to not agree and to publicly state that fact. You do not however have the right to be condescending to MSgt Cotoure take away from her belief or attempt to bring her down and attack her pride in this mission she is performing. An intelligent person knows what their rights are a wise person knows when to take advantage of those rights..... you chose wrong.
Hal Jordan, Space Sector 2814
 
9/7/2011 9:21:10 PM ET
Dear Pamela Realistic is correct. I understand your concern but the child is hungry because hisher country let them down there are a lot of hungry children here at home. We need to feed them first. I have been to Afghanistan and we are trying to do what is impossible. This is not giving up but being realistic that we tried and succeeded some areas and not so much in other areas now it is up to Afghans to feed that child. Be safe and come home soon.
Checksix, USA
 
9/7/2011 8:36:55 PM ET
Pamela in all fairness you don't have to go to Afghanistan to see what you described. You can see that in any major city in the US. There is nothing wrong with having faith in people but faith isn't bulletproof. Afghanistan is a war and not a humanitarian operation like Haiti. It is no secret that the enemy has infiltrated the ranks in the ANA and ANP and are actively trying to kill Americans and their Allies. Realistic's comments may seem pessimistic to you but as someone who has been shot at by our supposed Iraqi and Afghan allies I can certainly understand empathize with his position. You seem to have a great attitude and I really hope nothing changes that. That being said this is still a war not everyone is your friend and complacency kills.
John, FL
 
9/7/2011 7:44:19 AM ET
Dear Realistic: To live in a world with no faith in people must be a difficult. You should come here and look in the eyes of a child who hasn't eaten for days and lost his father to the greed and hatred of another and tell him that he doesn't deserve a chance. Life is not so simple to judge all by the action of a few. I applaud and salute MSgt Couture and her efforts even after facing tragedy of losing her co-workers and friends. Her courage is commendable.
Pamela , Kabul Afghanistan
 
9/6/2011 9:56:13 PM ET
The Afghani uniforms look like mint chocolate chip ice cream. Yum
Chris, Virginia
 
9/6/2011 1:29:01 PM ET
Thank you for the great article, never give up. We remember or people who gave the ultime sacrifice and pray for peace.
Stephen Hall, Seattle WA USA
 
9/6/2011 11:49:11 AM ET
Oh my nave sergeant. You have obviously given in to the political correctness that permeates our military operations, which costs the lives of service members of which your coworkers are the perfect example. Your article is proof against your own argument. Any one of the Afghan men you are training could be the next one to turn and kill. Did you consider that most if not all of the men you are working with would not give you the time of day under normal circumstances because you are a female? The most likely reason they don't is because they are getting something tangible out of your presence there. I'll bet we're still trying to help the Afghans a decade from now just as we have failed to do so in the last decade.
Realistic, The Real World
 
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