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Military spouses are heroes, first lady says

Posted 10/26/2010 Email story   Print story

    


by Cheryl Pellerin
American Forces Press Service


10/26/2010 - WASHINGTON (AFNS) -- The needs and concerns of military spouses, whose sacrifices benefit the nation, should be of concern to all Americans, First Lady Michelle Obama said Oct. 26.

"These women and men -- they are heroes, and it's time that we recognize the challenges they face and the obstacles they overcome and the contributions they make," Mrs. Obama said at the Women's Conference 2010, held Oct. 24 through 26 in Long Beach, Calif.

"It is an issue that I believe should be on the agenda of every women's conference, right up there with equal pay, right up there with work-family balance, right up there with breaking the glass ceiling," the first lady told 30,000 attendees, who gathered to hear Mrs. Obama and more than 100 other speakers during the annual forum.

California Gov. Arnold Schwarzenegger and his wife, Maria Shriver, hosted the meeting. The Women's Conference also is a global, online community with more than 1 million participants.

Dr. Jill Biden, wife of Vice President Joe Biden, also addressed the conference.

"One of the best parts of my role as second lady is the time I spend meeting servicemembers, military families, veterans and wounded warriors -- people who honor us with their service across this country and around the world," she said.

Women make up 15 percent of the military and serve in leadership positions in every branch of the service, Dr. Biden added.

"In recognition of that evolution, the president is expanding and enhancing care for women veterans and looking for ways to expand childcare," she said.

Mrs. Obama said her husband, President Barack Obama, also has worked hard on behalf of military families, strengthening support programs and counseling services and increasing funds for housing, childcare and career development.

"He's extended the Family and Medical Leave Act to more military families and caregivers, and we're working with states to streamline requirements so that spouses don't have to reapply for professional credentials and take new tests every time they move," she said.

"But the truth is that there is so much more that each of us can do and should do right in our own communities ... (and) it's time for each of us to act," the first lady said.

Mrs. Obama called on teachers, school administrators and PTA members to see what their schools can better do to support military kids. Lawyers, accountants or counselors can offer services pro bono to some military families in their communities.

Small-business owners or human resources professionals, who work in large companies, can make an effort to hire more military spouses and help make the workplace more accommodating to military spouses, she said.

People with time to volunteer can go to the United We Serve website to find out how to help military families in their areas, Mrs. Obama said.

The needs and concerns of military spouses "should be on the agenda of every woman and every American because they represent the very best this country has to offer," the first lady said.

"It's time that each of us did our part to give them the support they need, the recognition they deserve and the gratitude they've earned," she added. "I look forward to working with all of you in some way, shape or form to make that happen in the months and years ahead."



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11/6/2010 9:56:43 PM ET
Wow SC, why is the Capt's comment so agrivating? Or Badabing's? They are mostly fact with a bit of opinion.
SoCal Vet, City of Angels
 
10/30/2010 2:32:28 AM ET
@SC - So you think a General would go out of his way to speak to a younger Airmen/Officer regarding a parking spot? You must be out of your mind.
SSgt, Somewhere
 
10/29/2010 4:48:57 PM ET
i never said i would get irate with her or him or upset...i just said my opinion would not change. Kick back relax its friday.
Badda Bing, DMAFB
 
10/29/2010 1:39:49 PM ET
Badda bing - let me know how it goes when you're standing before the General explaining your actions towards his spouse.
SC, Macdill
 
10/29/2010 12:13:18 PM ET
In our BX we have spaces reserved for Senior Leader Spouses. I guess we're the only base that does that.
A1C Mancia, Holloman AFB NM
 
10/29/2010 5:59:29 AM ET
There's a reg for reserved parking spaces at the BX...and I thought I could just use common sense...
Caveman, Bedrock
 
10/28/2010 5:23:47 PM ET
Ma'am -SC- To put the exchange and the comissary and TRICARE into the same category as a parking space is ridiculous. Especially if labeled with CHIEF/OFFICER...which no where in those titles do i see spouse. There isn't a reg for these spaces and from reading your comment it seems as though you have them all memorized, but it is a common custom and courtesy not to park in these spots reserved for our highest ranking and most deserving individuals out of respect. I assure you my opinion would not change if speaking with a General's wife. With exception to maybe specified CC spots, there are usually more than one deserving person for each spot. Not fair to that chief or officer in my opinion. We could go back and forth all day but its time for PT...
BAdda BIng, DMAFB
 
10/28/2010 3:57:05 PM ET
My goodness all this negativity over use of reserved parking by spouses. Let's clarify on this issue. AFI 31-204 Air Force Motor Vehicle Traffic Supervision Chapter 4 Parking section 4.8.3 use of distinctive emblems decals stickers etc. to control parking space assignments and to indicate authorized use of the parking slot. If a spouse has the respective decal clearly displayed on their vehicle then they are authorized to utilize the respective reserved parking slot. If you don't like it take it up with your respective installation commander.
Enuff Said, Over there
 
10/28/2010 3:17:34 PM ET
Badda Bind Analyst SSgt B - so by your arguments that spouses don't wear the uniform therefore are not entitled to certain benefits If that's everyone's opinion then we should also deny spouses the use of the Exchange the Commissary Tricare benefits and any other military installation services provided. No where in any regulation does it specify limiting conditions of reserved parking spaces to active duty members only. While you may infer that to be the case, there is a level of custom and courtesy that is extended to spouses. I'd like to see you attempt arguing your point against a General's spouse.
SC, Macdill
 
10/28/2010 1:46:44 PM ET
-SC- Ma'am, did you read Capt T's comment? Nothing about that comment is conduct unbecoming of an officer and a gentleman. If anything, I think he was a gentleman for not talking back to her for saying "I didn't serve 24 years to be talked down to by some Captain." My spouse supports me in everything I do but there is no way she would park in a reserved parking spot except as an expecting mother. I agree spouses support us back home and yes their sacrifice is huge but their lives are not on the line while engaging in paying bills or taking the kids to school.
Badda Bing, DMAFB
 
10/28/2010 1:18:19 PM ET
I agree the word Hero is used far too often and is usually misused. Unfortunately dictionaries have multiple definitions of the word Hero. Hero is defined as somebody who commits an act of remarkable bravery or who has shown an admirable quality such as great courage or strength of character or a person who in the opinion of others has heroic qualities or has performed a heroic act and is regarded as a model or ideal or a person of distinguished courage or ability admired for their brave deeds and noble qualities or an illustrious warrior or one that shows great courage or a person who is admired for having done something very brace or having achieved something great. Hero is also defined as someone who is admired for outstanding qualities or achievements or a person admired for their achievements and noble qualities an object of extreme admiration and devotion or someone who you admire very much. These definitions were obtained online from Encarta Cambridge Merriam Webster
JB, Warner Robins GA
 
10/28/2010 12:45:20 PM ET
SC: Hey, she still isn't a Chief. She probably supported her husband but that does not mean she has earned the rank of CMSgt. Thus she doesn't get the benefits of being a Chief. Now as a human being she deserves a certain amount of respect and decorum. So long as Capt T was respectful and polite, I see nothing wrong with what he did. It is definately not 'borderline conduct unbecoming of an officer and a gentleman'.
Analyst, Barksdale
 
10/28/2010 12:22:48 PM ET
Capt T - I agree with your statement regarding the parking space. Right on sir! SC...if I'm the Chief's friend of his wife, can I park in that spot as well? Let me guess! I'm not in his immediate family so that would be a no. Capt T had a right to question that lady no matter what your opinion is. It doesn't say "Chief's spouse" in the parking spot, it says "Chief." A hero can be used in different terms and sentences, so the term "hero" is an opinion of each individual. I won't argue that point.
SSgt B, Somewhere
 
10/28/2010 10:41:58 AM ET
Capt T - I am appalled with your actions towards the Chief's wife and frankly believe that borderline conduct unbecoming of an officer and a gentleman. She may not be the one wearing the uniform, but her husband attained the top enlisted rank because of her support and sacrifice behind him.
SC, Macdill
 
10/28/2010 10:23:06 AM ET
For those who are griping about spouses utilizing reserved parking based on your arguments should we then take away their use of Exchanges Commissaries Tricare etc I think were blowing this issue out of proportion. Remember RHIP - rank has its privileges. Its not about spouses taking advantage of benefits or feeling they are entitled to said benefits but the level of RESPECT for the rank that individual has earned through their years of service and sacrifice. And yes, the backbone for those individuals making it to that level is their spouses. While I agree the term hero is a bit overstated, never forget that spouses are the other silent professionals enabling those to deal with America's business.
Steve, Tampa
 
10/28/2010 10:06:38 AM ET
Mr. Solon - You are right. Hero is pathetically overused to make people feel good about themselves, particularly since 911. For goodness sake people call that flight attendant Steven Slater from JetBlue a hero for being a moron. You're not a hero for wearing the uniform. You're not a hero for deploying. You're not a hero for engaging the enemy in combat. None of those things automatically earn the title, and neither does being a military spouse.
Scott, Texas
 
10/28/2010 9:45:20 AM ET
People who complain about the use of the GenColChief parking spaces who are not generals/colonels/chiefs themselves are frankly...moot. Until the generals/colonels/chiefs start complaining about their spouses using the spots, there's no issue. Members and their spouses are a team. Most of those people probably would have never achieved their rank without the outstanding support and sacrifice of their spouse. So, just quit being jealous already.
MM, NE
 
10/28/2010 8:32:26 AM ET
Capt T in NM your comment is extremely valid and we should definitely look at ALL of the perks assumed by senior-level spouses. There are definitely more O6 and above parking, of which 95 percent of the time I see spouses parking in them. I believe our spouses are definitely the backbone of our careers and definitely need to be recognized for their support, but I too think reserved parking spaces and other perks should be ONLY for the active duty or retired servicemember.
SMSgt ret, Florida
 
10/27/2010 4:33:10 PM ET
I agree with Mike military spouses do make sacrifices, but to call them heroes lessens the impact of the word. It's events like this that make military spouses feel entitled to honor they have not earned. I was at the BX and saw a woman with her children park in the Chief spot at the BX. She was clearly not enlisted herself so I politely told her the spot was reserved for our Chiefs and she replied I didn't serve 24 years to be talked down to by some Captain, my husband has been a Chief for almost 6 years now and I've been parking here ever since If anyone reads this please don't think I'm belittling you for supporting your spouse while they serve. I'm begging you to understand that their sacrifice was not for YOU to get the good parking spot it was to defend our great country and people like yourselves.
Capt T, NM
 
10/27/2010 2:41:59 PM ET
I disagree with what you have said in your comments Mr.Solon. You stated that the title hero should be preserved for the ones who go above and betyond for the good of their country well I believe that when the Military person is called up for duty to go fight the good fight the ones left behind are forgotten about. I would have to say leaving one's spouse behind with all of the children all of the bills and any other situations that come up to be handled and juggled by the spouse is definately going above and beyond. Nobody asked the spouse to do all of this they just do it in support of their country. Therefore HERO is fitting.
Mike, Sheppard
 
10/27/2010 12:30:52 PM ET
I don't agree with using the word Heroes in any other way then describing a True Hero which we have many who served and some have given their life for their Country. Yes The Spouses should be recognized for all they do in support of the Military member but using the title has been loosely watered down since 9-11 and it should stop. That title should be preserved for the ones who go above and beyond for the good of their Country and fellow mankind around the Free World. Let's concentrate on thanking those who support us even with Hugs, but refrain from using this title to only when a true hero is recognized. Thank you for your continued service to our Country and for the support that all spouses do in the background which also counts and service to our Great Nation.
Mike Solon, West Chester Ohio
 
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