Welcome back to Ask a Homo, a judgment-free zone where the gays of Outward answer questions about LGBTQ politics, culture, etiquette, language, and other queer conundrums. Today a reader inquires about roles: Do lesbian relationships always involve one partner who’s masculine of center and another who’s more feminine?

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Why do gay people call themselves queer?
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Why do gay men sometimes call each other she?
What’s the deal with tops and bottoms?
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