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Teen Pregnancy Prevention

Tips for Parents

  1. Let's leave behind old-fashioned ideas that prevent us from communicating honestly with our children. Let's talk to them openly, both girls and boys, about love, relationships, friends, responsibility, and sexuality.

    If you think talking is not easy you're not alone; there are many parents in your same situation. If your adolescent acts like a "know-it-all," don't get discouraged. What happens is that it's just as hard for your teen to discuss this subject as it is for you. The fact is that your kids want you to be the person who talks to them. After all, parents are their children's first teachers, and, therefore; children trust their parents.

  2. Let's start talking about sexuality from an early age, and often.

    Children are curious about their physiques. If you begin to explain to them step-by-step the changes that take place in their bodies, then when the time comes for a more detailed conversation, it will be easier for them. Teach them about hygiene, getting adequate sleep and eating well. Talk about the emotions they might be going through, let them share with you what's going on in their day. Go for walks, invite them to help you cook or shop. Socially, he/she is becoming more developed and along with this comes ups and downs, new relationships, and new growth. Don't wait for a one-time conversation; take little opportunities along the way to share. Think of life as a school and you, the parent, are the best teacher.

  3. Supervise your kids' activities. Remember they are no longer kids but, rather, young adults needing some independence.

    There will be times when they may act like a child, and other times when they may rebel when you begin to set limits and curfews. Keep in mind that this is their most social time, therefore; acquaint yourself with their friends, who are very powerful in influence at this time. Always approach your child with calmness and fairness, which will help him realize your sole interest is in protecting them. Keep setting limits as they need limits more than ever. They need structure, routine, chores and expectations set for them.

  4. As parents, we have the right to know with whom our children go out.

    When children enter adolescence, it is up to parents to supervise their social life. We must set certain rules. We should advise younger teens to go out with their friends in a group. And when time comes for dating, we should recommend them dating people their own age. Often, older people will expose them to more pressure and risk.

  5. It's good that we know what our children see, read, and hear.

    TV, magazines, and radio may contain messages that could confuse and even harm young people. Be aware of what they are listening to, and help interpret positive or negative images. These are opportune times to share values and help children see what those images are really trying to do, for example, sell. Sometimes a comment can bring forth an important and productive conversation.

  6. We must help our teens set goals.

    Ask your kids about their interests, observe them, and join them in their interests, be part of their life. Ask what they think they would enjoy doing or trying. The more experiences you give them the better prepared they are socially and psychologically. Encourage them to be involved at school or work. Help them understand the consequences that positive or negative things can have on their future. Explain to them in this country an education or trade and some financial independence is important if they want to meet their goals. Explain how building them into loving and productive people takes time and experience. Making goals and good decisions will allow them to experience a better life.

  7. Let's realize that a parent's job is never done.

    No matter what age, children will always need their parents. Cultivate a good relationship with your kids by treating them with love, patience, and respect throughout their lives. When parents and children get along, they share love and a good sense of communication.