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When Your Parent Has Cancer: A Guide for Teens
    Posted: 04/05/2006



This Booklet Is For You






You've Just Learned That Your Parent Has Cancer






Learning About Cancer






Cancer Treatment






What Your Parent May Be Feeling






Changes in Your Family






Taking Care of Yourself






Finding Support






You and Your Friends






How You Can Help Your Parent






After Treatment






The Road Ahead






Learning More on Your Own






Appendix A: Monitoring Tests






Appendix B: Cancer Team Members






Acknowledgments



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Learning About Cancer

What Is Cancer?
Why Do People Get Cancer?
Will I Get This Cancer, Too?
Can Doctors Cure Cancer?

"When Dad told me he had cancer, I got really scared. Everything I'd always heard about cancer was just terrible. Then I thought, 'Hey, what do I really know about cancer?' The answer was, 'Not much.' So I started reading books and stuff on the Internet. My dad even told me that some of what I found on the Web wasn't right for the kind of cancer he has. Cancer is still pretty scary, but I've learned that people survive it. I'm not so afraid anymore."
- Abdul, age 14

Learning about cancer will help you understand what your parent is going through. Knowing what cancer is and how it spreads may take some of the fear out of it. Some of what you have seen or heard about cancer may not apply to your parent. Most people feel better when they know what to expect.

Here are a few things to remember:
  • Nothing you did, thought, or said caused your parent to get cancer.
  • You can't catch cancer from another person.
  • Scientists are discovering new and better ways to find and treat cancer.
  • Many people survive cancer.

What Is Cancer?

Doctors have found more than 100 different types of cancer. Cancer is a group of many related diseases that begin in cells, the body's basic unit of life. To understand cancer, it's helpful to know what happens when normal cells become cancer cells.

Normally, cells grow and divide to make more cells only when the body needs them. This orderly process helps keep the body healthy. Sometimes, however, cells keep dividing when new cells aren't needed. These extra cells form a mass of tissue called a growth, or tumor. Tumors can be benign or malignant.

  • Benign tumors aren't cancerous. They can often be removed and don't spread to other parts of the body.
  • Malignant tumors are cancerous. Cells in these tumors are abnormal and divide and grow without control or order. They can invade and damage nearby tissues and spread to organs in other parts of the body. The spread of cancer from one part of the body to another is called metastasis.

Most cancers are named for the organ or type of cell in which they begin. For example, cancer that begins in the lung is called lung cancer. Some cancers do not form a tumor. For example, leukemia is a cancer of the bone marrow and blood.

Why Do People Get Cancer?

The causes of most cancers aren't known. Scientists are still learning about things that may put people at a higher risk for certain types of cancer. These things include smoking, spending too much time in the sun, eating poorly, not getting enough exercise, and coming into contact with certain types of chemicals and toxins.

Will I Get This Cancer, Too?

Some kids worry that they might get cancer, too. While no one can tell the future, it is good to know that most cancers are not passed down from parent to child. You and your parent can talk to a doctor for more information.

Can Doctors Cure Cancer?

Every year scientists discover better ways to treat cancer. That means many people are successfully treated for cancer. However, doctors are careful not to use the word "cure" until a patient remains free of cancer for several years. Cancer treatment may cause a remission, which means that the doctor can't find signs of cancer. But sometimes the cancer comes back. This is called a relapse or recurrence. Whether your parent can be cured of cancer depends on many things, and no booklet can tell you exactly what to expect. It is best to talk with your parent and his or her doctor or nurse.

Where to go for more information
To learn more about the type of cancer your mom or dad has, visit the National Cancer Institute's (NCI) Web site (http://www.cancer.gov). You can also call NCI's Cancer Information Service at 1-800-4-CANCER (1-800-422-6237) to speak with an information specialist. All calls are free and confidential.

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