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Changing statements from "you" to "I"
For each scene below, change the blaming “you” statement, into a feeling “I” statement.
| Your teacher asks you to redo a report for the fifth time. |
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Instead of: “You’ll never be happy with anything I turn in!” Try: “I feel ________ when you __________ because I’ve already tried my best.” |
| Your brother’s music is so loud that you can't study. |
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Instead of: “You only think about yourself!!!” Try: “I feel _________ when you ________ because I can't do my homework. Please turn it down.” |
| You just found out that your friend told a secret. |
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Instead of: “You’re such a fink!” Try: “I feel ________ when you ___________ because I wanted to keep that between you and me.” |
| You sit down to watch a movie with your boyfriend, but he turns on football, again. |
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Instead of: “You don’t even care about me!” Try: “I feel __________ when you don’t ask me what I want to do.” |
Content last updated June 26, 2008
