YFCS-2/3.2 ACCEPTING YOURSELF
YFCS-2/3.2, New Sept 2000. Molly Gregg, Extension 4-H Program Specialist
Wellness
Education Project
Building a Positive
You!
"Accepting
Yourself" |
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One of the goals of the 4-H Wellness Education
Project is to help you learn to accept yourself. The great thing
about you is that YOU are YOU!
Circle five of the statements below that describe
you.
I
am happy |
I
am willing to learn new things |
I
am energetic |
I
work hard |
I
am a good listener |
I
am generous |
I
like my: |
Eyes |
I
am thoughtful |
I
help my family |
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Legs |
I
like most people |
I
am patient |
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Hair |
I
respect myself for who I am |
I
am willing to try new things |
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Shoulders |
I
am kind to others |
I
am athletic |
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Face |
I
am respectful of others |
I
like to spend time alone |
I have a good
sense of humor |
Other things
I like about myself: |
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Write what
you circled and the other things you like about yourself in your
4-H journal. |
Complete the following sentences and record
your responses in your 4-H journal. There is no hurry--take your
time and think about it. You may want to complete one sentence
a day for a week. You can also complete the sentences in any order.
If you have a hard time completing an answer to number three,
skip to number six.
- One thing I do well physically is...
- One thing I like about my appearance...
- One thing I like about my personality is...
- One way I am helpful to others is...
- At school I am good at. or, At home I am
good at...
- One other thing I like about myself is...
- Something else I like about myself is...
When you have completed this activity, you
will have identified characteristics about yourself that you value.
People who feel good about themselves are enthusiastic about getting
up in the morning, and they feel good about others. People with
good self-esteem:
- Feel like there is a purpose in life
- Challenge themselves to improve
- Accept compliments graciously
- Are successfully and know it
- Smile at others first
- Accept criticisms without feeling devastated
- Know and feel good about themselves
- Understand that they are acceptable now at
this moment just the way they are
Sometimes, we let what other people say tear
down our self-esteem. Think of a time when someone made a negative
comment about you and how it made you feel. In the next activity,
your job is to replace all the negative comments italicized in
the script of the play "I Am Lovable and Capable." Just
cross out the negative comments and write positive one about them.
As you change the negative comments, think about how remarks from
others build up and tear down self-esteem.
"I Am Lovable and Capable"
Adapted from the University of Nevada
Cooperative Extension
Narrator: A fifth
grade boy named Michael is still lying in bed five minutes after
his alarm has rung. It's a school day. Suddenly, his mother calls:
Mother: Michael,
you lazy-head, get out of bed and get down here before
I send your father up there."
(Example: "Michael,
sleepy head, get out of bed and get down here before I come up
there and kiss you all over.")
Narrator: Michael falls back to sleep. Soon
his father comes upstairs and shouts:
(Example: sings)
Father: "Michael,
get up! Do I have to haul you out of bed just to get you
up?
(Example: I want
to spend time with you this morning eating breakfast.)
Narrator: Michael
drags himself out of bed. He searches his dresser for clean socks
then calls:
Michael: "Mom!I
haven't got any clean socks."
Mother: "Michael
that's your fault. Just wear yesterday's pair."
Narrator: Michael
goes to brush his teeth. The bathroom door is locked. He bangs
on the door and his sister yells:
Sister:"Get
away from the door, sponge brain! I'll get done when I get done."
Narrator: Michael
goes down to breakfast feeling pretty dirty. He's greeted by a
bowl of cereal already fixed for him. Yuck, it's soggy!
In a hurry to meet the school bus, Michael forgets his lunch.
His mother says:
Mother: "Hey,
Michael! Where are you going without your lunch? Get back Here!"
Narrator: Michael
runs back for his lunch, but misses the school bus. Michael is
late for school now. When he get there, he must get a pass from
the principal.
Principal:"You
blew it, Michael! I don't think you'll ever get your act together.
You have to be on time or life's going to pass you by. Now, get
to class!!"
Narrator: Michael
finally makes it to class. The teacher is not happy.
Teacher: "Hey
mister. Where is your pass? How come you are always screwing up?"
Narrator: The
teacher hands Michael a graded test --68 percent.
Teacher: "Michael,
you are going to fail if you don't get with the program."
Narrator: After
classes that seem to last forever, Michael goes to lunch. He's
very hungry because breakfast was such a waste. He decides on
a bowl of soup to go with his sack lunch. On his way back to the
table where his best friend is waiting, Michael slips on the cafeteria
floor, spills his soup, and drops his tray. Everybody but his
best friend is laughing. Relieved that there is at least one understanding
person in the world, he sheepishly cleans up and goes back to
their table. He has no more money to buy soup. His friend says:
Best Friend:
"OOOHHH, MICHAEL! How could you? I'm so embarrassed!"
Narrator: During
the final hour of school, Michael has PE. He's one of the last
people chosen. Michael sits on the bench thinking about the awful
day he has had. He wonders how it could get worse. His teacher
spies him daydreaming and says:
PE Teacher: "Hey!
Pay attention! If you want to play, you gotta stay tuned to the
action."
Narrator: Michael's
school day finally ends. When he get home, his mom is watching
soap operas. Michael has no chance to watch his shows. He decides
to look for a snack. He has not had a lot to eat today. Michael
grabs a brownie. His mother sees him munching on his way through
the living room.
Mother: "Hey,
kid! Those are for dessert. Put'em back. Go do your homework!
If you would study when you get home, you might learn something.
You should do your work while it's fresh on your mind. Now, go!"
Narrator: As
the day comes to a close, Michael climbs into bed, exhausted.
His self-esteem is about as big as a dime.
THE END
If you have difficulty completing this activity,
get your parents, brothers, sisters, grandparents, friends, or
teachers to help. Ask your parents to do this and ask them if
doing the activity made them think of ways that they could be
more positive when they communicate with other people, especially
you. Remember that outside influences can affect self-esteem.
People who feel good about themselves can ignore negative comments
made by other people. Also remember when you make comments about
other people, you are having an impact on that person's self-esteem.
More Things to Do
- Write a play about a parent having a bad
day. Underline the negative comments and have your parents add
positive comments where negative comments have been made.
- Say something positive to the people in your
life every day. Keep a record in your 4-H journal of the positive
things you tell people.
- Every day, write something positive about
yourself in your journal. Build up your own self-esteem. You
are not bragging. Remember that your 4-H journal is for you and
nobody else.
- If there are people in your life who make
you mad or get on your nerves, discover something good about
them.
- Smile at someone you do not know.
- When someone is having a really bad day,
help that person by reminding him or her that not all days are
bad. Try to get the person to smile.
For more information, contact your county Extension office. Visit http://www.aces.edu/counties or look in your telephone directory under your county's name to find contact information.
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acts, in cooperation with the U.S. Department of Agriculture. The Alabama
Cooperative Extension System (Alabama A&M University and Auburn
University) offers educational programs, materials, and equal
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