Return-Path: <nifl-womenlit@literacy.nifl.gov> Received: from literacy (localhost [127.0.0.1]) by literacy.nifl.gov (8.10.2/8.10.2) with SMTP id h4CEo0C22022; Mon, 12 May 2003 10:50:00 -0400 (EDT) Date: Mon, 12 May 2003 10:50:00 -0400 (EDT) Message-Id: <20030512144644.70860.qmail@web20804.mail.yahoo.com> Errors-To: alcrsb@langate.gsu.edu Reply-To: nifl-womenlit@literacy.nifl.gov Originator: nifl-womenlit@literacy.nifl.gov Sender: nifl-womenlit@literacy.nifl.gov Precedence: bulk From: Mary Lou Sewell <mlsewl@yahoo.com> To: Multiple recipients of list <nifl-womenlit@literacy.nifl.gov> Subject: [NIFL-WOMENLIT:2575] Re: outcome of conversation with husband X-Listprocessor-Version: 6.0c -- ListProcessor by Anastasios Kotsikonas Content-Type: text/plain; charset=us-ascii Status: O Content-Length: 3002 Lines: 73 That was a tough situation. Thank goodness you handled it the way you did and that it worked out well. Congratulations on a good job. Mary Lou --- Daphne Greenberg <alcdgg@langate.gsu.edu> wrote: > Thanks for all the responses regarding the husband > who called regarding his wife's participation in the > reading research project. I found all of your > listserv responses and your private responses to me > very interesting, and descriptive of the > complexities of such an event. > As promised, here were my thoughts/concerns and what > I ended up doing: > My immediate gut reaction was I am not going to call > him back and that I would ask her about it the next > time I saw her. Then I started to wonder whether she > is involved in a violent relationship and wondered > if that were the case-would it be better for her if > I called. I worried that by not calling him back, I > might make him angry at her. But I still worried > about calling him, because he may not know that she > has literacy problems-what if she is secretly going > to the literacy program? How do I know how much to > tell him about the research project? So I waited. > The first day that she did not return to her > literacy program, I figured-okay coincidence. The > second day, I figured, she could be sick. By the > third day I got nervous. Especially because he left > a few messages on my voice mail. So, eventhough I > didn't want to call him-I did. He answered and I > told him who I was and that I was returning his > call. He wanted information about the reading > project so that he could decide w! > hether it made sense for his wife to do it. I felt > like asking him why I needed to talk to him about > that, but didn't. Instead I asked him what specific > questions he had. He wanted to know the exact times, > days, and locations of the class. Once I told him, > he thanked me. I then asked him if he thought she > would be attending. I asked him this because it > seemed clear to me that he would be deciding this. > He told me that he thought that she would be too > busy to attend 4 days a week 2 hours a day. I asked > him if he had any other questions and he said no and > we said good bye. > She came back to the literacy program the next day. > I asked her if she wanted to join our literacy > research project and she declined, saying that she > didn't have the time. I told her that I understood > and asked her if she would be able to continue her > regular literacy program which met 2 days a week for > 2 hours. She said yes. I am glad to report that I > have noticed that she has been able to attend her > regular program > Daphne > > Daphne Greenberg > Associate Director > Center for the Study of Adult Literacy > MSC 6A0360 > Georgia State University > 33 Gilmer Street SE Unit 6 > Atlanta, GA 30303-3086 > phone: 404-651-0127 > fax:404-651-4901 > dgreenberg@gsu.edu __________________________________ Do you Yahoo!? The New Yahoo! Search - Faster. Easier. Bingo. http://search.yahoo.com
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