[WomenLiteracy 234] Re: WE LEARN Conference
Andrea Wilder
andreawilder at comcast.net
Fri Mar 24 10:13:23 EST 2006
Ujwala--
We're probably keeping men out. Also, women are devalued, so going to
a woman's conference would I think be seen as slightly icky and
crossing a line.. Hard to say this, but I think this is true.
Also, as women we tend to pull into shells in "mixed" situations.
There are MEN on this list, so maybe they will speak up--THANKS SAMUEL
for asking your question! You kind of opened a floodgate!!
Andrea
On Mar 24, 2006, at 9:57 AM, Ujwala Samant wrote:
> Andrea,
>
> I have been thinking about something. Are conferences
> with Women in the title perceived as different and
> exclusive? I am sure all the men on this listserv work
> with women and have research issues etc with women.
> Why then do we see such few men at conferences that
> look at one half of the population? Are we (as
> women)keeping men's participation out when we organise
> such conferences? Are we deliberately maintaining the
> distance?
>
> We see men at conferences with "Family Literacy",
> "Children's literacy" etc in the title....
>
> Just curious...
> Regards,
> Ujwala
>
> --- Andrea Wilder <andreawilder at comcast.net> wrote:
>
>> Ujwala and Samuel--
>>
>> I thought about this topic deeply yesterday. I am
>> so glad that Ujwala
>> has said what she said, otherwise I'm like a voice
>> crying in the
>> wilderness, as scripture would have it.
>>
>> The language is different and meanings are
>> understood differently by
>> men and women. The "presentation of self" is
>> different.
>>
>> I'm usually on the emotional/analytic side of
>> discussions, and this is
>> a different female way of responding in discussions.
>> My impression is
>> that the standard mode of discussion as experienced
>> by men, and as put
>> forward in psychology textbooks, is for
>> emotions/analysis to be put
>> at two ends of a spectrum. Men and women are then
>> placed somewhere on
>> this line.
>>
>> I have often/many times/some times been thought of
>> as overly emotional
>> and consequently not listened to by men. True
>> story. That male way
>> of listening lost me a bundle of money once.. The
>> lawyer didn't listen
>> to me, was surprised by an outcome, and had to admit
>> he had been wrong.
>> This has happened also on NIFL list servs. It's
>> DEEPLY DEEPLY
>> STUPID, especially in a field with many women, not
>> to access women's
>> way of seeing, observing, and concluding. I was
>> once ridiculed for
>> this by a man, and I had to deck him, verbally, to
>> get him to listen to
>> me. Fortunately, neither a job nor money nor
>> romance hinged on this
>> encounter.
>>
>> I just looked for an article(Chronicle of Higher Ed)
>> about Laurel
>> Ulrich, 67, a history scholar and now a university
>> professor at
>> Harvard--the top place in Harvard's academic
>> hierarchy. She is
>> married, has 5 children and grandchildren. She
>> speaks as a woman,
>> illustrating how by following a woman's way she made
>> it to the top of
>> the heap at the University just down the street from
>> me. Example: she
>> took her dissertation topic from the surrounding
>> countryside of New
>> Hampshire, because she didn't want to be away from
>> her children. On
>> one of my trips around the neighborhood I saw where
>> she and her husband
>> live, and I will write her a letter. Believe, me,
>> she will immediately
>> be asked for speeches on the women's lecture
>> circuit.
>>
>> That's enough for now. Thanks, Ujwala, and thanks
>> Samuel.
>>
>> Andrea
>>
>>
>>
>>
>>
>>
>> On Mar 24, 2006, at 2:59 AM, Ujwala Samant wrote:
>>
>>> Andrea and Samuel,
>>>
>>> I agree with what Andrea says.
>>>
>>> 1. It's not even looking for men's attention, but
>> more
>>> than that the 'space' is more evenly distributed.
>> In a
>>> mixed/male-directed conference, floor space is
>> often
>>> taken over by men. And since adult education has a
>> lot
>>> of male gurus, women's space is clearly
>> delineated.
>>>
>>> 2. Very few true 'minglers' are organised. The
>> evening
>>> drinks and cheese receptions are so outdated and
>> de
>>> passe, that I end up trying to organise something
>>> myself which involves meeting people I want to
>> meet
>>> and talk to. It is always a pleasure to meet and
>> talk
>>> to people one knows as names on the various
>> listservs.
>>> Our field is dwindling even if the need for our
>> work
>>> is on the rise, and the better we know our
>> colleagues
>>> (male and female), the better for the longevity of
>> our
>>> profession and our learners.
>>>
>>> 3. Even the kind of food served is different. When
>> we
>>> had a female president of an organisation in NJ
>> whose
>>> board I was on organised lunch we could tell the
>>> difference: The meat heavy or premade sandwiches
>> were
>>> gone. In their place was a smaller, but nicer
>>> selection of hot and cold platters to choose from
>> and
>>> vegetables and fruit were not mere garnishes or an
>>> unrecognisable green mass to be sidelined. Over
>> food,
>>> people actually find the time to sit down and talk
>> to
>>> their colleagues and find out what is happenening
>> in
>>> the field. In the case of We Learn, such mingling
>> and
>>> catching up with old friends was encouraged and
>> space
>>> was provided to do just that. Most times our
>>> conferences are packed (as We Learn was) and the
>>> inclusion of such time was invaluable.
>>>
>>> 3. I think more of us (men and women) ought to
>> attend
>>> We Learn, they would enjoy it and see a different
>> sort
>>> of conference, one on which future (and larger)
>>> conferences could be modelled. The only other
>> meeting
>>> that came close to We Learn was one organised in
>>> Portland.
>>>
>>> 4. There were some 'greats' there at last year's
>>> conference. And despite that, there was less/no
>> top
>>> down hierarchy one sees when conferences are
>>> male-focused.
>>>
>>> 5. Another important point: the serious inclusion
>> of
>>> adult learners. As someone pointed out, We Learn
>>> includes adult learners. I've made this point
>> before
>>> that we tend to now pay lip service to our adult
>>> learners. We either romanticise them or distance
>> them.
>>> We do not really listen to them. And a lot of it
>> is
>>> because of the circumstances our field is in:
>> policy
>>> dictates it, funding demands it. At We Learn,
>> awards
>>> were not important: their voices and opinions
>> were.
>>>
>>> These are my impressions from last year and which
>> is
>>> why I regret having missed it this year. Just to
>> be
>>> clear, this was not a wishy washy, coffee klatch
>>> conference. I'd recommend more people attend it to
>>> find out.
>>>
>>> Warm regards,
>>> Ujwala
>>>
>>> --- Andrea Wilder <andreawilder at comcast.net>
>> wrote:
>>>
>>>> Wow, Samuel, that's a hard one!
>>>>
>>>> I bet an all male conference would seem
>> different,
>>>> too--let's trade
>>>> observations
>>>>
>>>> OK--female conference-others chime in.
>>>>
>>>> 1) flowers, music, food
>>>> 2) A sense of being sisters--there are givens
>> that
>>>> we all share, so
>>>> laughter can be shared laughter. Mothers and
>> their
>>
> === message truncated ===
>
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