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Finding a "New Normal"
"When you're taking
care of somebody,
you're so busy. For me,
staying busy was very
fulfilling. But then,
when it's over, there
can be a vacuum."
--Joanne
The end of cancer treatment is often a time to rejoice.
Most people expect to put their cancer experience behind
them and pick up where they left off in their lives. People
are eager to get back to their normal routines and activities.
| Now what do I do? |
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One of the most common reactions
by caregivers after treatment ends
is to ask themselves, "Now what do
I do?" They may wonder if they will
be needed as much. And they may
feel a sense of loss. Many have to
think about how to adjust to this
"new normal."
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It's important to remember during this time that each
person involved tends to adjust at his or her own pace.
Some people are able to resume their regular activities
right away. Others may need some extra time to recover.
There may be pressure for you or your loved one to get
back to the way things were before cancer. Yet it's important
to know that for some, this can still be an emotional period.
Your loved one needs time to come to terms with what has
happened. She still may be coping with the effects of
treatment and adjusting to all the changes. She needs to figure out a "new normal." This means
getting back to her old life, but in a way that's probably different than before. This also applies
to you. Taking time for yourself and finding a new sense of normal is a process you will be
adjusting to as well.
During treatment, you took on many roles. You may have
been in charge of many decisions. Your loved one may have
stepped back from decisions to stay focused on getting
through treatment. It's common for caregivers to feel
confused once it's over. You may have questions such as: How
do I help my loved one now? Should I go back to work, or
stay at home? When will he be ready to take on former roles
and responsibilities? The answers to these questions vary with
each person. As you move forward, try to be patient and take
things one day at a time.
| Definition of Survivorship |
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A person is considered a cancer
survivor from the time of diagnosis,
through the balance of his or her
life. Family members, friends, and
caregivers are also part of the
survivorship experience. The word
"survivor" helps many people think
about embracing their lives beyond
the illness.
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