Return-Path: <nifl-womenlit@literacy.nifl.gov> Received: from literacy (localhost [127.0.0.1]) by literacy.nifl.gov (8.10.2/8.10.2) with SMTP id h4CGTnC28313; Mon, 12 May 2003 12:29:49 -0400 (EDT) Date: Mon, 12 May 2003 12:29:49 -0400 (EDT) Message-Id: <Law11-F90EAyCcTUDrN000108f4@hotmail.com> Errors-To: alcrsb@langate.gsu.edu Reply-To: nifl-womenlit@literacy.nifl.gov Originator: nifl-womenlit@literacy.nifl.gov Sender: nifl-womenlit@literacy.nifl.gov Precedence: bulk From: "Robert Stein" <begindev@hotmail.com> To: Multiple recipients of list <nifl-womenlit@literacy.nifl.gov> Subject: [NIFL-WOMENLIT:2576] Re: outcome of conversation with husband X-Listprocessor-Version: 6.0c -- ListProcessor by Anastasios Kotsikonas Content-Type: text/plain; format=flowed Status: O Content-Length: 3579 Lines: 87 >From: Mary Lou Sewell <mlsewl@yahoo.com> >Reply-To: nifl-womenlit@nifl.gov >To: Multiple recipients of list <nifl-womenlit@literacy.nifl.gov> >Subject: [NIFL-WOMENLIT:2575] Re: outcome of conversation with husband >Date: Mon, 12 May 2003 10:49:48 -0400 (EDT) > >That was a tough situation. Thank goodness you >handled it the way you did and that it worked out >well. >Congratulations on a good job. >Mary Lou >--- Daphne Greenberg <alcdgg@langate.gsu.edu> wrote: > > Thanks for all the responses regarding the husband > > who called regarding his wife's participation in the > > reading research project. I found all of your > > listserv responses and your private responses to me > > very interesting, and descriptive of the > > complexities of such an event. > > As promised, here were my thoughts/concerns and what > > I ended up doing: > > My immediate gut reaction was I am not going to call > > him back and that I would ask her about it the next > > time I saw her. Then I started to wonder whether she > > is involved in a violent relationship and wondered > > if that were the case-would it be better for her if > > I called. I worried that by not calling him back, I > > might make him angry at her. But I still worried > > about calling him, because he may not know that she > > has literacy problems-what if she is secretly going > > to the literacy program? How do I know how much to > > tell him about the research project? So I waited. > > The first day that she did not return to her > > literacy program, I figured-okay coincidence. The > > second day, I figured, she could be sick. By the > > third day I got nervous. Especially because he left > > a few messages on my voice mail. So, eventhough I > > didn't want to call him-I did. He answered and I > > told him who I was and that I was returning his > > call. He wanted information about the reading > > project so that he could decide w! > > hether it made sense for his wife to do it. I felt > > like asking him why I needed to talk to him about > > that, but didn't. Instead I asked him what specific > > questions he had. He wanted to know the exact times, > > days, and locations of the class. Once I told him, > > he thanked me. I then asked him if he thought she > > would be attending. I asked him this because it > > seemed clear to me that he would be deciding this. > > He told me that he thought that she would be too > > busy to attend 4 days a week 2 hours a day. I asked > > him if he had any other questions and he said no and > > we said good bye. > > She came back to the literacy program the next day. > > I asked her if she wanted to join our literacy > > research project and she declined, saying that she > > didn't have the time. I told her that I understood > > and asked her if she would be able to continue her > > regular literacy program which met 2 days a week for > > 2 hours. She said yes. I am glad to report that I > > have noticed that she has been able to attend her > > regular program > > Daphne > > > > Daphne Greenberg > > Associate Director > > Center for the Study of Adult Literacy > > MSC 6A0360 > > Georgia State University > > 33 Gilmer Street SE Unit 6 > > Atlanta, GA 30303-3086 > > phone: 404-651-0127 > > fax:404-651-4901 > > dgreenberg@gsu.edu > > >__________________________________ >Do you Yahoo!? >The New Yahoo! Search - Faster. Easier. Bingo. >http://search.yahoo.com _________________________________________________________________ Protect your PC - get McAfee.com VirusScan Online http://clinic.mcafee.com/clinic/ibuy/campaign.asp?cid=3963
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