[WomenLiteracy 235] Re: WE LEARN Conference
Andrea Wilder
andreawilder at comcast.net
Sat Mar 25 09:04:59 EST 2006
Ujwala,
We very much need men to come, what we can do is keep on a woman's
agenda. I think this would give women a chance to work on reaching
-out-to-men skills. I wonder if we need to be able to have women's
discussions in the presence of men. What do you think?
Andrea
On Mar 24, 2006, at 10:13 AM, Andrea Wilder wrote:
> Ujwala--
>
> We're probably keeping men out. Also, women are devalued, so going to
> a woman's conference would I think be seen as slightly icky and
> crossing a line.. Hard to say this, but I think this is true.
>
> Also, as women we tend to pull into shells in "mixed" situations.
>
> There are MEN on this list, so maybe they will speak up--THANKS SAMUEL
> for asking your question! You kind of opened a floodgate!!
>
> Andrea
>
>
>
> On Mar 24, 2006, at 9:57 AM, Ujwala Samant wrote:
>
>> Andrea,
>>
>> I have been thinking about something. Are conferences
>> with Women in the title perceived as different and
>> exclusive? I am sure all the men on this listserv work
>> with women and have research issues etc with women.
>> Why then do we see such few men at conferences that
>> look at one half of the population? Are we (as
>> women)keeping men's participation out when we organise
>> such conferences? Are we deliberately maintaining the
>> distance?
>>
>> We see men at conferences with "Family Literacy",
>> "Children's literacy" etc in the title....
>>
>> Just curious...
>> Regards,
>> Ujwala
>>
>> --- Andrea Wilder <andreawilder at comcast.net> wrote:
>>
>>> Ujwala and Samuel--
>>>
>>> I thought about this topic deeply yesterday. I am
>>> so glad that Ujwala
>>> has said what she said, otherwise I'm like a voice
>>> crying in the
>>> wilderness, as scripture would have it.
>>>
>>> The language is different and meanings are
>>> understood differently by
>>> men and women. The "presentation of self" is
>>> different.
>>>
>>> I'm usually on the emotional/analytic side of
>>> discussions, and this is
>>> a different female way of responding in discussions.
>>> My impression is
>>> that the standard mode of discussion as experienced
>>> by men, and as put
>>> forward in psychology textbooks, is for
>>> emotions/analysis to be put
>>> at two ends of a spectrum. Men and women are then
>>> placed somewhere on
>>> this line.
>>>
>>> I have often/many times/some times been thought of
>>> as overly emotional
>>> and consequently not listened to by men. True
>>> story. That male way
>>> of listening lost me a bundle of money once.. The
>>> lawyer didn't listen
>>> to me, was surprised by an outcome, and had to admit
>>> he had been wrong.
>>> This has happened also on NIFL list servs. It's
>>> DEEPLY DEEPLY
>>> STUPID, especially in a field with many women, not
>>> to access women's
>>> way of seeing, observing, and concluding. I was
>>> once ridiculed for
>>> this by a man, and I had to deck him, verbally, to
>>> get him to listen to
>>> me. Fortunately, neither a job nor money nor
>>> romance hinged on this
>>> encounter.
>>>
>>> I just looked for an article(Chronicle of Higher Ed)
>>> about Laurel
>>> Ulrich, 67, a history scholar and now a university
>>> professor at
>>> Harvard--the top place in Harvard's academic
>>> hierarchy. She is
>>> married, has 5 children and grandchildren. She
>>> speaks as a woman,
>>> illustrating how by following a woman's way she made
>>> it to the top of
>>> the heap at the University just down the street from
>>> me. Example: she
>>> took her dissertation topic from the surrounding
>>> countryside of New
>>> Hampshire, because she didn't want to be away from
>>> her children. On
>>> one of my trips around the neighborhood I saw where
>>> she and her husband
>>> live, and I will write her a letter. Believe, me,
>>> she will immediately
>>> be asked for speeches on the women's lecture
>>> circuit.
>>>
>>> That's enough for now. Thanks, Ujwala, and thanks
>>> Samuel.
>>>
>>> Andrea
>>>
>>>
>>>
>>>
>>>
>>>
>>> On Mar 24, 2006, at 2:59 AM, Ujwala Samant wrote:
>>>
>>>> Andrea and Samuel,
>>>>
>>>> I agree with what Andrea says.
>>>>
>>>> 1. It's not even looking for men's attention, but
>>> more
>>>> than that the 'space' is more evenly distributed.
>>> In a
>>>> mixed/male-directed conference, floor space is
>>> often
>>>> taken over by men. And since adult education has a
>>> lot
>>>> of male gurus, women's space is clearly
>>> delineated.
>>>>
>>>> 2. Very few true 'minglers' are organised. The
>>> evening
>>>> drinks and cheese receptions are so outdated and
>>> de
>>>> passe, that I end up trying to organise something
>>>> myself which involves meeting people I want to
>>> meet
>>>> and talk to. It is always a pleasure to meet and
>>> talk
>>>> to people one knows as names on the various
>>> listservs.
>>>> Our field is dwindling even if the need for our
>>> work
>>>> is on the rise, and the better we know our
>>> colleagues
>>>> (male and female), the better for the longevity of
>>> our
>>>> profession and our learners.
>>>>
>>>> 3. Even the kind of food served is different. When
>>> we
>>>> had a female president of an organisation in NJ
>>> whose
>>>> board I was on organised lunch we could tell the
>>>> difference: The meat heavy or premade sandwiches
>>> were
>>>> gone. In their place was a smaller, but nicer
>>>> selection of hot and cold platters to choose from
>>> and
>>>> vegetables and fruit were not mere garnishes or an
>>>> unrecognisable green mass to be sidelined. Over
>>> food,
>>>> people actually find the time to sit down and talk
>>> to
>>>> their colleagues and find out what is happenening
>>> in
>>>> the field. In the case of We Learn, such mingling
>>> and
>>>> catching up with old friends was encouraged and
>>> space
>>>> was provided to do just that. Most times our
>>>> conferences are packed (as We Learn was) and the
>>>> inclusion of such time was invaluable.
>>>>
>>>> 3. I think more of us (men and women) ought to
>>> attend
>>>> We Learn, they would enjoy it and see a different
>>> sort
>>>> of conference, one on which future (and larger)
>>>> conferences could be modelled. The only other
>>> meeting
>>>> that came close to We Learn was one organised in
>>>> Portland.
>>>>
>>>> 4. There were some 'greats' there at last year's
>>>> conference. And despite that, there was less/no
>>> top
>>>> down hierarchy one sees when conferences are
>>>> male-focused.
>>>>
>>>> 5. Another important point: the serious inclusion
>>> of
>>>> adult learners. As someone pointed out, We Learn
>>>> includes adult learners. I've made this point
>>> before
>>>> that we tend to now pay lip service to our adult
>>>> learners. We either romanticise them or distance
>>> them.
>>>> We do not really listen to them. And a lot of it
>>> is
>>>> because of the circumstances our field is in:
>>> policy
>>>> dictates it, funding demands it. At We Learn,
>>> awards
>>>> were not important: their voices and opinions
>>> were.
>>>>
>>>> These are my impressions from last year and which
>>> is
>>>> why I regret having missed it this year. Just to
>>> be
>>>> clear, this was not a wishy washy, coffee klatch
>>>> conference. I'd recommend more people attend it to
>>>> find out.
>>>>
>>>> Warm regards,
>>>> Ujwala
>>>>
>>>> --- Andrea Wilder <andreawilder at comcast.net>
>>> wrote:
>>>>
>>>>> Wow, Samuel, that's a hard one!
>>>>>
>>>>> I bet an all male conference would seem
>>> different,
>>>>> too--let's trade
>>>>> observations
>>>>>
>>>>> OK--female conference-others chime in.
>>>>>
>>>>> 1) flowers, music, food
>>>>> 2) A sense of being sisters--there are givens
>>> that
>>>>> we all share, so
>>>>> laughter can be shared laughter. Mothers and
>>> their
>>>
>> === message truncated ===
>>
>>
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