Many people assume that a nursing home is the only option for parent or older persons who can no longer live alone in their own homes. However, there are many housing alternatives available. The information listed below will familiarize you with some of these options. The questions that follow each section suggest what you, your parent, or an older person might consider before selecting an alternative living arrangement. Please note that although this section refers to "parent," it applies to both parents.
For many people, having a parent move in with them is the best choice when living alone is no longer possible for the older person. For other people, it can be a difficult choice. If you are considering such an arrangement, you need to talk seriously with your immediate family and your parents to understand how each one of them feels. You also need to be sure to express all of your feelings about the situation. Talk with friends whose parents live with them and try to understand what it's like for them. Think through the questions listed below for both parents and children and discuss the issues together before agreeing to this living arrangement.
Questions for the Adult Child
Questions for the Parent
Foster care is a social service that places an older person who is in need of a modest amount of daily assistance into a warm home environment. The costs vary, and may be covered by the State social services program. The older person may be expected to contribute to the stipend paid to the family providing the foster care. The availability of this program is limited. Contact your AAA for more information.