Supervising an Employee with Suicidal Concerns
Suicide is a significant cause of death among Americans, and government personnel
are not exempt from the problem. Though there are differences in suicide rates
based on such factors as age, gender, and ethnicity, a person from any background
can commit suicide, or go through a period of seriously contemplating it.
People considering suicide often have been "worn down" by many stresses and problems.
Actual or expected loss, especially a love relationship, is often a contributing factor. The
suicidal person is frequently lonely and without a solid support system. Sometimes this is
a long-term characteristic of the person; in other cases a geographic move, death, or a
divorce may deprive an individual of personal ties that were formerly supportive.
Listen carefully to what your employees say--people thinking about suicide often give
hints about their intentions. Talking about not being present in the future, giving away
prized possessions, and making funeral plans are examples of possible hints of suicidal
intent. If you hear such talk, question it, kindly but firmly. You won't make the situation
worse by clarifying it, and an open conversation with you may be the person's first step
toward getting well.
Be alert to changes in behavior. A deterioration in job performance, personal appearance,
punctuality, or other habits can be a sign of many problems, including suicidal concerns.
If an employee admits thinking about suicide:
You'll want to get your employee to professional help, and the way you do this is very
important. The way you approach the issue can have an impact on the employee's
willingness to receive professional help. Your respect and concern for the employee can
contribute to the healing process.
- First offer your own personal concern and support. Let the person know you
care--the employee is both a unique human being and a valued member of your
team.
- Show understanding of the employee's pain and despair, but offer hope that, with
appropriate help, solutions can be found for the problems that are leading the
person to feel so desperate.
- Ask whether any of the employee's problems are work related, and, if so, take
initiative in attacking those problems. For example, the employee may feel
improperly trained for key responsibilities, or may be having difficulties with leave
or some similar issue without having made you aware of it. If you can act as an
advocate in remedying some of these problems, you will help in three ways--
removing one source of pain, showing concretely that someone cares, and offering
hope that other problems can also be solved.
- Do not question the employee about personal problems, as the individual may wish
to keep them out of the workplace, but listen with empathy if the employee
chooses to share them.
- Do not offer advice, but acknowledge that the problems are real and painful.
- Protect the employee's privacy with regard to other employees. This will require
thought and planning, as questions are sure to arise. When dealing with higher
management, you need to think clearly about what they actually need to know,
e.g., that the employee is temporarily working a reduced schedule on medical advice --
as opposed to what they don't need to know, e.g., intimate personal information that the employee may have confided in you as the immediate supervisor.
- Without hovering over the employee, show your continued support and interest.
Make it clear that the individual is an important part of the team, and plays a key
role in mission accomplishment.
Get Help:
As a general rule, anyone feeling enough pain to be considering suicide should be referred
to a mental health professional, at least for evaluation. Make it clear that you want the
employee to get the best possible help, and that some types of assistance are outside your
own area of competence.
- Usually, the Employee Assistance Program (EAP) is the referral source for mental
health assistance. If the employee consents, call the EAP yourself, emphasizing
that the situation is serious and needs timely attention.
- If for some reason the EAP is not immediately available, turn to your community's
Crisis Intervention or Suicide Prevention resource. These are normally listed with
other emergency numbers in the telephone book, and available on a 24 hour basis.
- Should there appear to be immediate danger, do not hesitate to call 911 or your agency's security officials.
Follow Up
Once your employee is involved in a treatment program, try to stay in touch with the
program. This does
not mean that you should involve yourself with specific personal
problems that the employee is discussing with a therapist. What you do need to know,
however, is how you can work with the treatment program and not at cross purposes to it.
Does the employee need to adjust work hours to participate in therapy?
Has the employee been prescribed medications whose side effects could affect job
performance?
Should you challenge the employee as you normally do, or temporarily reassign
the person to less demanding duties?
Mental health professionals will not, for ethical reasons, release information without the employee's consent. If you make it clear to the employee and treatment team what your goals are--to support them, not to delve into the employee's private concerns--you will probably have no difficulty getting cooperation. With the employee's consent, the EAP counselor can often play a coordinating role between the employees' health care provider and you as the supervisor. A meeting involving you, the employee, and the EAP counselor can be particularly helpful in clarifying relevant issues and assuring that your supervisory approach is consistent with the employee's treatment.
Take Care of Yourself
Working with a suicidal person is highly stressful, and you should take positive steps to
preserve your own mental health while you help your employee. You should not hesitate
to get support for yourself, either from your own supervisor or from the EAP.