Perpetrators/Batterers
If you are a batterer or if you are concerned you may be abusing your spouse, partner, another household member, or a person you are dating, this area gives you actions to take now, plus information on resources available to help you stop.
When you're thinking angry thoughts about your partner and you feel upset and frustrated, remember that you have a CHOICE.
Here are some ways you can stop your violence:
If you are in danger or at risk of hurting someone else, please hang up and call 9-1-1 NOW.
You are about to read warning signs that may show you are committing acts of domestic violence.
Where we use the word "partner" we mean wife, husband, girlfriend, boyfriend, spouse, lover, or
whoever applies to your situation. Where we use "she" or "her," if your partner is male, hear it as
"he" or "him."
You may be committing domestic violence if you are doing any of the following things:
If you think you may be committing acts of domestic violence, stop now and seek help. Listen to
the other messages in these pages for actions you can take today to end the violence.
Drinking and other drug use is no excuse for abusive behavior. Telling yourself battering will stop when the drinking and drug use does is a very dangerous mistake. People who abuse others as well as substances need two kinds of treatment: substance abuse treatment and batterer's treatment. Unlearning unsafe, abusive patterns requires accountability as well as sobriety. If you are in an abusive relationship and concerned about your own or another person's alcohol or other drug use, you can receive information and referrals 24 hours a day by calling the Alcohol Drug Help Line. The number in the Seattle area is 722-3700; the number for people throughout Washington State is 1-800-562-6052.
The following programs meet State standards for people who are court-ordered to attend domestic
violence treatment. Domestic violence treatment programs help abusers to identify and stop their
abusive behavior, to recognize the impact of the abuse on their partners, children, and themselves,
and to learn a variety of techniques for having safe, respectful relationships.
Marriage counseling and anger management programs generally do not meet State standards for
domestic violence treatment and therefore are not appropriate in domestic violence cases.
Fees vary by agency and many agencies have sliding fee scales for low-income clients.
Domestic
Violence Perpetrator Treatment Programs by City - Click Here
Provisions of the Law Against Domestic Violence
Domestic violence is a serious crime. It is against the law in the State of Washington. It is a crime
to hit, hurt, or seriously threaten a family or household member with violence.
Assault includes such things as slapping, pushing, shoving, pinching, throwing someone down,
pulling hair, and other violent actions that are unwanted. A person who verbally or physically
threatens a family or household member, making that person fearful of being hurt, is committing a
crime.
Violation of a court order is also a crime.
The term "family or household member" under the domestic violence law includes "spouses, former
spouses, persons who have a child in common regardless of whether they have been married or have
lived together at any time, adult persons related by blood or marriage, adult persons who are
presently residing together or who have resided together in the past, persons sixteen years of age or
older with whom a respondent sixteen years of age or older has or has had a dating relationship, and
persons who have a biological or legal parent-child relationship, including stepparents and
stepchildren and grandparents and grandchildren."
When police respond to a domestic violence call in Washington State they are required to make a written report and
make an arrest if they believe that an assault occurred within the previous four hours. They can make an arrest even after the four-hour period, depending on the circumstances. They may also issue a citation.
The State of Washington and those who enforce the law recognize domestic violence to be a serious
crime against society, and recognize the importance of giving maximum protection to the victim.
The intent of the domestic violence law is to help protect the victim while communicating clearly
that violent behavior is not excused and will not be tolerated.
If you think you may be committing acts of domestic violence, stop now and seek help. Other
messages on these pages provide information about programs that help abusers identify
and stop their abusive behavior.
If you are upset, getting out of control, or in need of immediate help, hang up and call 9-1-1.
If you are the Respondent in an emergency Order for Protection or a full Order for Protection, the
Court has set limits on your behavior in order to provide for the safety of the Petitioner. If you
violate the conditions of the Order, you can be arrested immediately, you can be issued a citation, or
you can have a civil contempt-of-court action filed against you.
If you have been served with an emergency "Temporary Order for Protection and Notice of
Hearing," read the order carefully. Note the date and time set by the Court for a full hearing. You
have the right and option to attend that hearing. One of the purposes for the hearing is so the Court
can hear from you and know your responses to the Petitioner's statements.
Remember: it is your responsibility to abide by all the conditions in the Order. You are to follow
the Court Order strictly. So long as it is in effect, you are to abide by it. You can be arrested for
violating the order even if you are invited by the Petitioner to do something which would violate it.
Only the Court can change the provisions and conditions of a Court Order.
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