If you have observed any of these things happening in your or another teen's relationship, dating violence could be happening.

You can prevent it from getting worse. Help is available. Look to other messages on these pages for specific things you can do and for information on community and other agencies who can help.

If you are in an abusive relationship or trying to get out of an abusive situation, here are some tips you might think about to increase your safety:

• Stay in touch with your friends and stay involved in activities that you enjoy.
• Consider telling your parents or other family members about what is happening. They can help you screen telephone calls or visitors.
• Try not to be alone. Let your friends know what is happening and have them walk to classes and spend time during lunch with you.
• Tell teachers, counselors, coaches, or security guards about what is happening. Have them help you be safe.
• Change your routine. Don't always come to school the same way, or arrive at the same time. Always have someone with you.
• Always keep extra quarters with you so you can make phone calls.
• Consider obtaining an Order for Protection from the court.
• Make a list of phone numbers, including 911, crisis lines, and supportive friends whom you can call when you are upset.
• Try not to be alone with your dating partner. Don't go by yourself to an isolated or deserted location.
• Before leaving home to go somewhere, let other people know what your plans are and where you'll be and when.
• Trust your instincts. If you feel you are in danger, get help immediately.
• Break up with your partner in a public place. Let other people know that you plan to break up with your partner and let them know where you'll be and when.

Everyone has rights in a relationship. Keep in mind that you have the right:

• To trust yourself and your instincts;
• To be respected as a person;
• To change your mind;
• To express your feelings;
• To refuse a date;
• To not be physically, emotionally, or sexually abused;
• To break up with someone who makes you feel bad.

Please listen to other messages about actions victims of domestic or dating violence can take and to get information on agencies that can help. There are specific agencies that also provide assistance to teenagers dealing with dating violence: