How to Talk to Your Pre-Teen or Teen

People communicate in many different ways. The most obvious is talking, what we say. But HOW you say things is just as important. And listening is just as important as talking. If your son or daughter feels like you don’t listen to what he or she has to say, he or she won’t listen to you.

Here are some things to think about when talking with your child, pre-teen, or teen:

What is your tone of voice? When you are talking to your son or daughter, HOW do you sound? Encouraging? Interested? Angry? Bored?

What is your body language? How do you LOOK to your son or daughter? Try to sit or stand in a relaxed position. Don’t look “all tense.” Face your son or daughter. Look at him or her when you are talking and when you are listening.

What does your face look like? You say a lot when you smile, frown, roll your eyes, or tighten your jaw like you are angry. When you talk with your son or daughter make eye contact.

Are you listening, really listening? It sounds simple, but listening is very important. The best listening is called “active listening.” It means making eye contact, nodding your head in understanding, and having positive facial expressions.

Want some more tips for talking with your pre-teen or teen? Visit Some Good Ways to Talk and Talking Tips.

Last revised: April 22, 2008