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11.06.14, 07:33 PM
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Wow just wow
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11.06.14, 07:34 PM
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Nope but I'm black. I wish my kid could avoid people like you.
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11.06.14, 07:34 PM
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OP: I know it's horrible. I'm ashamed and would never admit this to anyone. I do want some diversity, but I wish there were more kids like mine in the school. But since this is anonymous and you hate me anyway, just curious--do you care about the racial (or maybe economic) demographics of your dcs' school? Or does it not matter?
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11.06.14, 07:37 PM
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It would bother me. Move to a better neighborhood.
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11.06.14, 07:35 PM
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Aka more white
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11.06.14, 07:36 PM
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Just out of curiosity? Which country in Asia are you from?
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11.06.14, 07:37 PM
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OP: Not me. DH is Chinese-American (raised here).
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11.06.14, 07:38 PM
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Socio-economics are way more important than race. The fact that you are in the same area means you are one of them....
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11.06.14, 07:37 PM
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We are not in NY, but my DSs go to a very diverse parochial school. Last year, my older son was one of maybe 3 white kids in a class of about 18. Strangely, the other classes in that grade had more white kids, but for whatever reason this is how they sorted out the classes. He never seemed to notice or care, so I didn't think about it either.
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11.06.14, 07:39 PM
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11.06.14, 07:26 PM
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I wonder this too
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11.06.14, 07:29 PM
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I don't get it either. This is even more racist but I think that its some sort of perception of big black women being nurturing like in the south during slavery.
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11.06.14, 07:30 PM
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These nannies are not black Americans they are from the Caribbean. Sorry sometimes people on this board say the dumbest things.
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11.06.14, 07:34 PM
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They look the part.
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11.06.14, 07:37 PM
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Because they don't act surly when mom is around?
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11.06.14, 07:29 PM
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I'm sure the nannies are unpleasant and unsmiling in front of the employers, (rolls eyes). Tell your friends if you think their nanny is no good.
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11.06.14, 07:31 PM
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They probably don't act surly and unpleasant at the job interview or when the parents are around.
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11.06.14, 07:31 PM
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I don't think that's it because I interviewed quite a few and they were all very surly.
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11.06.14, 07:36 PM
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Yes. A lot of these women seem incapable of even pretending to seem happy and pleasant.
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11.06.14, 07:38 PM
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The surly thing is culturally their idea of good child rearing. So I don't think they would hide it from the parents.
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11.06.14, 07:38 PM
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Wonder this too! Can't help but think they just don't want the competition for mom figure.
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11.06.14, 07:33 PM
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Hadn't thought of that. That's so sad for the kids.
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11.06.14, 07:35 PM
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I think a lot of the parents want a certain type of "tough love" for their dcs (as opposed to they typical white-parent coddling), and they think these nannies will provide it.
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11.06.14, 07:34 PM
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No funny. I think one of the reasons ds loves the nanny is when he says he doesn't want to go to the playground she says yes. She is Filipino
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11.06.14, 07:36 PM
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I think some parents like the idea of someone stern. They think it creates disciplined kids. At least this is what my SIL thinks about her very surly carribean nanny.
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11.06.14, 07:39 PM
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11.06.14, 07:21 PM
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we're getting pictures soon too! photographer recommended like colors (not necessarily matching, but keep it in the same family…i.e. blues & greens…reds & pinks, etc. with neutral denim/brown/gray consistent too.) and she said no stripes or patterns.
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11.06.14, 07:25 PM
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Go with a similar look--all of you wear jeans and sweaters in a similar color palette (for example). Solid colors are better than prints. The best family pic we ever took was in jeans and we each wore a gray sweater. The shades of gray were different, as was the style of sweater (cardigan, pullover, sweater jacket), but it came out really well. We all wore white shirts underneath the sweater.
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11.06.14, 07:27 PM
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I'd take inspiration from Destiny's Child
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11.06.14, 07:28 PM
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+1
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11.06.14, 07:30 PM
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Riding boots, Jeans, Blazer that is camel colored, a color undernath like red, and get a blowout. wear lip gloss. wear earrings that are shiny and/or contrast with your hair color (example wear pearls if you have brown hair). Or a necklace.
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11.06.14, 07:31 PM
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this sounds ugly and fly-overy.
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11.06.14, 07:34 PM
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haha ok whatever! I live in the west village and am in my late 20s soooooo yeah not flyover. OP, why dont you wear black jeans, rag and bone booties, a leather moto jacket, and your hair super straight. and make a duck lips face in the picture. Also make sure to not cut your boys hair ever. These steps will guarantee you do not look flyover.
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11.06.14, 07:36 PM
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no, it sounds like Ralph Lauren styled it
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11.06.14, 07:35 PM
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Please don't wear matching white button down shirts and jeans. Begging you.
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11.06.14, 07:33 PM
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All dark colors is nice. Solids - no prints.
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11.06.14, 07:34 PM
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All 4 of you should wear matching hanna anderson pjs
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11.06.14, 07:35 PM
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11.06.14, 07:21 PM
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Do you want religious affiliation or no? Narrow it down for us - there are a lot
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11.06.14, 07:26 PM
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No religious affiliation - so not the JCC or Rodelph(?)
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11.06.14, 07:28 PM
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Rodeph is too far north anyway. Look at Dwight for preschool (on Riverside Blvd). Mandell is another on-going. IPS. There's also a bunch of very small ones that families like, ie First Friends.
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11.06.14, 07:30 PM
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Mandel is much further north
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11.06.14, 07:35 PM
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Rodeph is south of mandell and dwight?!
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11.06.14, 07:35 PM
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No. The ongoing Dwight and Mandell are uptown. The Dwight preschool is in the 60s on Riverside Blvd. Mandell preschool is on 66th and Amsterdam.
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11.06.14, 07:37 PM
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had no idea.
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11.06.14, 07:39 PM
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PCDS
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11.06.14, 07:29 PM
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What do you mean by good? The 2 school with good exmissions on the UWS are WSMS & Montclare. Then there are many great neighborhood schools that send a handful of kids to privates but most to public. So really depends on what you are looking for.
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11.06.14, 07:31 PM
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I listed the schools above. But ITA that "good" needs to be defined. ITDA that all other schools besides WSMS and Montclare are mostly public-focused.
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11.06.14, 07:34 PM
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WSMS exmissions are due to legacy and siblings. not such a great school. overcroweded and chaotic
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11.06.14, 07:36 PM
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There are none. Parents commute uptown.
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11.06.14, 07:33 PM
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Brownstone
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11.06.14, 07:37 PM
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11.06.14, 07:14 PM
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Check out the Curly Girl book - you need the right cut (no short layers, but def remove bulk), you need to apply lots of leave-in conditioner while your hair is still soaking wet, DO NOT wrap it in a towel or scrub at it, you need to comb it through with your fingers and then LEAVE IT ALONE. Don't keep touching, don't brush, you can scrunch a little with damp fingers and a little oil if necessary but don't toss it around a lot. Just use more conditioner than you think you need to seal the shaft.
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11.06.14, 07:20 PM
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Ouidad
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11.06.14, 07:24 PM
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Only wash hair about once a week. The rest of the time just use a cleansing conditioner. I also like the aveda products for frizz control.
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11.06.14, 07:24 PM
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embrace the jew fro
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11.06.14, 07:27 PM
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I like the chaser product from drybar (available I think at sephora too. brand is drybar) but that said, my hair is not in that bad of shape. its like a creamish thing you kind of rub on your hair once its dry. Also the moroccan oil inense conditioner that has the orange top. Also Its a 10 shampoo and condiitonr WITH KERATIN.
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11.06.14, 07:34 PM
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11.06.14, 07:14 PM
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ICE is great. DC is not there, but I know 5-6 dcs who are. Strong humanities curriculum. Lots of emphasis on writing. For self-starters, not dcs who need a lot of structure. D2 parents tend to discount it because so many other choices, but for years it has been a godsend for DCs in Brownstone Brooklyn, where there aren't as many good middle schools. It's also safe travels for dcs coming on their own from Brooklyn. Most of the dcs I know stayed for HS; the ones who left did so because they wanted more advanced math/science.
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11.06.14, 07:15 PM
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11.06.14, 07:11 PM
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Not sure what he said?
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11.06.14, 07:13 PM
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Sorry for not being clear. He seemed to be resentful that we have done these things.
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11.06.14, 07:17 PM
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Nice.
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11.06.14, 07:14 PM
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I think his point is that he thinks he's paying for these trips and excursions.
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11.06.14, 07:13 PM
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As he should, if he cheated on her and left the marriage and left her with responsibility of 2 young kids.
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11.06.14, 07:16 PM
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What he pays barely pays their monthly food bill.
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11.06.14, 07:17 PM
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+1 what did he say?
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11.06.14, 07:16 PM
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Good for you!
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11.06.14, 07:28 PM
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I'm not following this post at all.
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11.06.14, 07:32 PM
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You are not living well yet if you still care about his opinion. Let it go. The best revenge is to actually be so happy with your life that you don't want revenge anymore.
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11.06.14, 07:33 PM
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11.06.14, 07:11 PM
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I love how we teach kids these ridiculous self defense class stuff as if they lived in sierra leone during their civil war or something. Your kids live on the UES and attend private school. They don't need to be masters of kung fu to protect themselves from imminent danger.
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11.06.14, 07:15 PM
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lol ita
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11.06.14, 07:24 PM
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How do you know that OP lives on the UES.
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11.06.14, 07:27 PM
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Fine, UWS. I hear there are projects there. Maybe he does need to learn assault skills.
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11.06.14, 07:28 PM
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A man should know how to defend himself. Mommy or the nanny won't always be there.
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11.06.14, 07:29 PM
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I am curious whether those classes really teach kids to fight. I'm sure they're great for confidence and assertiveness, which is probably enough to deter bullies, but it seems unlikely kids who have never actually fought anyone are actually learning to fight, or that a tiny little black belt could really kick a big huge bully's ass. Keep us posted!
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11.06.14, 07:17 PM
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krav maga is about combat and self-defense. it's not about stupid belts and trophies so mommy can be happy that junior is now brown level. and yes, they teach kids how to physically disarm a bully. it's very effective.
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11.06.14, 07:18 PM
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a lot of bullying is online
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11.06.14, 07:23 PM
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my DC isn't online yet, too young
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11.06.14, 07:24 PM
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Np maybe. Ds has been taking classes for over a year. It might mean he can but my kid won't, just not his personality. They can't change a kids personality
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11.06.14, 07:23 PM
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It can turn a shy kid into a bully. BTDT
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11.06.14, 07:25 PM
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I know what krav maga is and if your ds is getting the same training IDF soldiers are getting I'm sure he'll be able to disarm a bully. If he's learning the moves but not actually fighting, it's going to be less useful. Sorry. DH used to fight and purposely pulled our dc out of a class that purported to teach self-defense. Neither of us wanted our kids actually fighting and he believes strongly that teaching kids they know how to fight when they've never actually done it is setting them up to fail. You can practice the moves 1000 times, but the first time you get punched in the face it's still a shocker.
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11.06.14, 07:25 PM
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^Also, despite what all the teachers say, a lot of winning a fight is size and strength. Again, these classes are great for confidence building and assertiveness training and with luck nobody's dc will ever need to fight.
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11.06.14, 07:25 PM
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What the hell kind of school do your kids attend where this is necessary to protect yourself against bullies? Getting punched in the face, needing to "disarm an attacker", being trained like a soldier? JFC.
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11.06.14, 07:27 PM
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This. My DH grew up in a bad neighborhood and he said the most important thing about surviving a fight is being able to take a punch. If you can't do that you're toast.
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11.06.14, 07:27 PM
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Yeah, OP. Make sure you send your kid to a karate class where he'll get punched in the face.
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11.06.14, 07:28 PM
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I'm sure there are classes like this smart ass.
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11.06.14, 07:30 PM
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At my child's martial arts class they let the children punch each other so they will know what it is like to get hit.
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11.06.14, 07:28 PM
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this is hilarious. i bet some kid told OP's kid he smelled funny, and that is what constitutes the bullying he is learning to fight back to.
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11.06.14, 07:29 PM
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disarm? are they coming at your kid with a machete or something??
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11.06.14, 07:26 PM
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In Africa they come at you with a machete and ebola.
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11.06.14, 07:26 PM
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better teach him proper handwashing along with machete skills!!!
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11.06.14, 07:28 PM
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My co-worker said one of her neighbors was attacked with a machete (outer borough).
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11.06.14, 07:31 PM
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OP, you sound like a bully.
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11.06.14, 07:25 PM
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+1
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11.06.14, 07:29 PM
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ok, if you say so. how's your bully child doing?
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11.06.14, 07:31 PM
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he's not learning to assault other kids in a class intended for soldiers, that's for sure.
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11.06.14, 07:30 PM
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we don't teach DC to hit. we teach self-defense. whole different story.
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11.06.14, 07:38 PM
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