if she's skinny enough for a boyfriend to vocalize being more attracted to than me and this becomes a focal point of conversations i pretend aren’t indicative of bigger problems about the relationship i think it looks 'bad'
so like 110lbs, depending
j/k
kind of
usually my reaction to skinny (even emaciated-looking) women is positive or envious
not sure how much that's related to whatever...media...conditioning...experience...i don't think it matters why
if a woman's body looks enviously skinny to me but her face doesn't 'live up to it' i'll think 'HAHA! I WIN!'
or sometimes 'men will be more willing to overlook her face and shitty parts of her personality because of her body goddamnit way to be predictable guys come on everyone COME ON...but...so...but so still, i lose...wait how are her boobs'
my relationship to my own attractiveness is not 'healthy*' enough so that i view most women skinnier than me as not looking 'bad,' in that looking at them makes me feel less attractive, which feels bad
*or so i've been told. or so i've not been told but otherwise learned, is not healthy. or so i probably more accurately just tell myself is not healthy. this is a great way to amplify that irrational judgmental voice, by the way, relating it to another desirable thing it's not. 'health.' the voice in your head that goes 'SHE'S PRETTY SO I'M LESS PRETTY' now goes 'SHE'S PRETTY SO I'M LESS PRETTY AND IT'S NOT HEALTHY FOR ME TO THINK THIS IS IT WORSE TO BE LESS PRETTY OR TO BE LESS HEALTHY HOW DO YOU LOOK "HEALTHY" DON'T THEY LIKE SKINNINESS BECAUSE IT LOOKS "HEALTHY" NOW THEY WANT ANOTHER KIND OF "HEALTHY" WHICH IS STILL NOT YOU EVEN IF YOU GET AS PRETTY AND SKINNY AS YOU CAN IT WILL NOT MEAN YOU THINK ABOUT YOURSELF IN A "HEALTHY" WAY HOW DO YOU CHANGE THAT YOU CAN'T YOU CAN'T YOU CAN'T BUT KEEP TRYING THERE MUST BE A WAY THAT ISN'T ONE OF THOSE VAGUE SELF-HELP-Y EPIPHANIES THAT SOUND LIKE EVEN MORE BULLSHIT THAN THIS LINE OF THINKING BUT OKAY SO IN THE MEANTIME JUST DON'T SAY ANYTHING ABOUT HOW YOU THINK YOU LOOK OR DON'T PARTICIPATE IN CONVERSATIONS ABOUT ATTRACTIVENESS OR IF ANYONE MENTIONS SOMEONE SKINNIER AND PRETTIER THAN YOU GIVE AN ANECDOTE OR MAKE A JOKE OR JUST LIKE REALLY DETACHEDLY SAY "SHE HAS GREAT HAIR"'