Finding a Safe Space for Dallas' Homeless LGBTQ Youth

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Roughly 3,400 Dallas ISD students are homeless. Hundreds of these are LGBTQ teenagers.
When they come out, gay teens must often deal with unsupportive, even hostile parents. Sometimes, parents even go so far as to kick the kids out of their homes. If they attend a Dallas ISD school, they become one of the roughly 3,400 homeless students in the district. By some guesses, although it is impossible to put a definitive number to the group, hundreds of LGBTQ youth are homeless in Dallas.

See also: Why There Are 3,400 Homeless Students in Dallas ISD

Mark Pierce, a spokesman for Dallas ISD Homeless Education Program, says that many of the district's students end up homeless because of their sexual orientation. "There's a lot of different reasons why they're homeless ... A lot of times they've been asked to leave home because of sexual preference."

Michael Cruz, program manager for the Resource Center's Youth First Program for LGBTQ teens, says nearly all the homeless kids he sees at the Center have experienced extreme difficulties at home. "If someone experiences homelessness, it's often for leaving a bad housing situation. They run away, they get kicked out, or sometimes they age out of the foster care system," he says.

But homeless LGBTQ teens are usually not found sleeping on city park benches. Kids often end up couch-surfing, or living with friends until they can figure out their housing situations. "Youth are very well-connected because of social media, and very resourceful. Often if someone needs immediate help, they will find it based on social media connections," Cruz says. "Young people are able to identify their sexual, gender identified feelings, put a name on that, and go online and find real-life resources for themselves."

Gay and transgender kids often don't find that sort of support from their straight parents, who have a hard time coming to terms with their kids' sexuality. "Parents struggle with raising a teen, and then their teen has this identity that they know nothing about and may be confused about. There's a whole slew of things the parents have to know about," Cruz says. "It's a complex situation, I think, for straight parents. How do straight parents wrap their minds around a gender identity that they can't relate to?"

This confusion can easily translate to animosity. When this happens, this kids often end up at the center, where they receive housing referrals. "What we provide is socially supportive programming and counseling," says Cruz. "We are a program for young people to come in, help themselves to food in the kitchen. We refer them out to housing, and then they engage in those programs and requirements as they're able."

But most of the time, what these kids need most is a welcoming and nurturing environment, where they can open up to peers about their sexuality. "There's a level of complexity by sometimes having social isolation," says Cruz. "We provide a place for a young person to come in, and just be themselves in a safe, supportive space."



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38 comments
mremanne
mremanne

The problem, as always, is insufficient resources, compounded by the fact that most shelters in Dallas are "faith-based", which demands a strong bias against anyone who shows what "Christians" consider "deviant sexual tendencies". Dallas needs a safe, non-denominational facility where LGBTQ young people can stay on a temporary basis, and receive help and counciling on how to progress in their lives. Things like how to finish their education and find a decent job. Work is the only way out of poverty, and unfortunately, these kids will be facing an additional level of discrimination. That's why they're homeless now.

John1073
John1073

We can probably start by not having someone as the spokesman of the program who refers to sexual orientation as a "preference".

shawn4848
shawn4848

really? are we really classifying homeless people on their sexual orientation? They are homeless...JUST HELP THEM in their time of need....period

CarlSmith
CarlSmith

Apparently Mr. Pierce needs some education himself. The only way it could be a sexual preference would be if they were bisexual. Then they could have a preference. But for anyone else gay, straight, transgender, whatever it's not a preference it's an orientation.

Mark Pierce, a spokesman for Dallas ISD Homeless Education Program, says "A lot of times they've been asked to leave home because of sexual preference."


Myrna.Minkoff-Katz
Myrna.Minkoff-Katz topcommenter

What some self-righteous bashers don't realize is this: If you are going to hate the sin so much that there's an overflow into the "sinner," then you had better be prepared to be tested under scripture's repeated warnings against spiritual pride, considered the worst sin of all. As soon as anyone basks in feelings of spiritual superiority over others, he or she is doomed. Saint Maximos the Confessor once wrote that the spiritually advanced who, on becoming puffed up with pride in their spiritual progress, are then "rightly handed over to hardship and suffering for the express purpose of humility." ---Thom Nickels, Philadelphia-based author/journalist.


OxbowIncident
OxbowIncident

.....but the straight homeless kids are doing just swell these days.

Steeve
Steeve

Why do you have to separate them, and make them a special group?  Why do you have to single them out from ALL homeless people?


I thought they were "no different" than anyone else?  


I guess you just like to - uh - have it both ways?

roo_ster
roo_ster

Dallas Observer Headline, 01NOV2014

"Meteor To Strike Earth, Ending All Life on Planet: LGBTQ Teenagers Hardest Hit"

MattL11
MattL11

Wait, parents are still kicking their children out of the house for being gay? That's some fucked up, 50's-and-60's-ass shit.

Los_Politico
Los_Politico

I don't doubt this happens in Dallas, but I do doubt it happens anywhere close to 3,400 times a year. In fact, I doubt the 3,400 number that's being kicked around here and other places recently.


Experiencing eviction and homelessness are terrible. But there is a difference between staying at your cousins apartment for a week and living on the streets for a year. This article implies that on any given day 3,400 kids are coming to DISD after sleeping on the streets. But all you have are some quotes, not even an anecdote, let alone data.

SisterLawna
SisterLawna

Thank you for sharing this. It's quite disturbing.

pak152
pak152

"By some guesses, although it is impossible to put a definitive number to the group, hundreds of LGBTQ youth are homeless in Dallas."

so if a definitive number is impossible we'll just make up a number??? journalism at it 

John1073
John1073

@shawn4848 I get what you are saying however there isn't a lot of "equality" in homelessness either. There are places where LGBT people can not eat or sleep because of their sexuality. Even people in need still face discrimination because of sexuality, race, gender, etc.

John1073
John1073

@CarlSmith Bisexuality is not a "preference" either. It just widens the dating pool.

Myrna.Minkoff-Katz
Myrna.Minkoff-Katz topcommenter

@Chattering_Monkey Police have arrested and charged the two men and teenage boy who chased and shot a 22-year-old man dressed as a woman in Brooklyn on Saturday morning.

The victim was walking with a friend on Broadway near Putnam Ave. in Bushwick about 7 a.m. when he was attacked by Cody Sigue, 22, Matthew Smith, 21, and Tavon Johnson, 17, as they screamed profanities and anti-gay taunts at the pair, cops said.

The victim and his friend tried to get away, but the three creeps ran after them and opened fire, shooting the victim in the buttocks, police said.

The man was taken to Brookdale University Hospital, treated for his injuries and released.

Cops nabbed the attackers, all from Brooklyn, after a brief chase on foot, officials said.

Johnson and Sigue were charged with menacing and third-degree hate crime, while Smith was charged with assault in the first degree, cops said. ----NY Daily News, 9.29.2014

TheRuddSki
TheRuddSki topcommenter

@white_rocker

Q is for "Questioning".

(Congratulations, you've now joined the LGBTQ community.)

BrintCrockett
BrintCrockett

@roo_ster 20% of homeless teens are LGBT teens, and they are often underserved. Don't pretend homophobia isn't an issue in Texas.

TheRuddSki
TheRuddSki topcommenter

@roo_ster

Oh to be a hetero young man in California these days. Just say "I'm gay" and you get to shower with the girls. Woo-hoo.

TheRuddSki
TheRuddSki topcommenter

@pak152

"...must often...sometimes...roughly...by some guesses...many...a lot of...a lot of times...usually..."

That's kind of precise, in a certain way, some say. But then we have this, which kind of tells me that this particular community is managing (no pun intended) to solve some, if not most of its own problems:

"Youth are very well-connected because of social media, and very resourceful. Often if someone needs immediate help, they will find it based on social media connections... Young people are able to identify their sexual, gender identified feelings, put a name on that, and go online and find real-life resources for themselves."

So, what was the problem again?

CarlSmith
CarlSmith

@bvckvs @mremanne  If you have "a very dear friend" who is in  a shelter with no place to live why haven't you opened your home to her?

mremanne
mremanne

@bvckvs @mremanne If this is the case, you should name the shelter, because it is to be commended. I can assure you they are not all so open-minded.

CarlSmith
CarlSmith

@bvckvs @CarlSmith  markzero is correct. You do not understand what you are reading. If you are involved in counseling homeless youth then you are a very dangerous man. Not only is there what markzero pointed out, but there is also this. Romer v. Evans, 517 U.S. 620 APA argued that homosexual persons are an identifiable group that has endured prejudice, discrimination and political powerlessness, and that homosexuality is not voluntary.

markzero
markzero

@bvckvs @CarlSmith 

The APA doesn't say it's a preference here:


http://www.apa.org/topics/lgbt/orientation.aspx?item=2


So, are heterosexuals just "straight" because they prefer to be? Shouldn't that mean, then, that they should try gay sex to be sure which they like, like how some people think they like vanilla ice cream best, until they get their first taste of rich, dark chocolate? 


Nobody prefers ostracism and abuse, I think. Except masochists. Do you think these teens (or anyone else) really have a choice, but want the abuse they're getting for their "preference?"


I guess I should also ask if you believe in ex-gay therapy. Because it's predicated on the same belief. It's probably also behind the belief that gay people can "recruit." Which, if true, should seriously make all straight people worry about their own exposure, because the idea alone of gay sex is apparentky so enticing that people are willing to be beaten or murdered in other countries, or ostracized here til they are suicidal, even before they've actually done anything, sometimes.

CarlSmith
CarlSmith

@John1073 @CarlSmith That's what I meant to say. I just didn't word it correctly. What I meant was that a bisexual person could have a preference as to what sex they preferred, male, female or even trangendered. So, you are correct, bisexuality is an orientation also. Thanks for helping me clear that up.

John1073
John1073

@bvckvs You are simply incorrect. Unless you've gone and tested this theory yourself, I will take the word of the people that have had it happen to them. You also need help apparently if you think people can't control their urges. Look into your own life.

TheRuddSki
TheRuddSki topcommenter

@John1073

Queer is now preferable to homosexual, which is considered a slur, according to the official GLAAAD style guide.

Next week, who knows?

CarlSmith
CarlSmith

@bvckvs 

You are ignorant, don't know how to read and have no business counseling anyone especially LGBT children. The APA says sexual orientation is an immutable characteristic not trait and apparently you have no idea what immutable means and no idea how to use a dictionary but that doesn't matter because even if you did you would not understand what you are reading. "APA argued that homosexual persons are an identifiable group that has endured prejudice, discrimination and political powerlessness, and that homosexuality is not voluntary."  This was APA's wording not mine. I simply copied and pasted, so no I wasn't being dishonest. Yes, please don't bother to respond, I'm going to respond to you further because you've got your mind made up and no one will change it, not even the APA which YOU introduced into the conversation.

markzero
markzero

@bvckvs @markzero


Gay people have often said that they can't control their behavior - that their sexual activities are driven by some abnormality in their biology.  There's even some science to back that up.


I think you're confusing behavior with attraction. Have you really heard people say the equivalent of, 'I was just walking along on my way to the library, and suddenly I was having sex. I couldn't help myself?' Or have you heard something more like, 'I can't help who I love?'


markzero
markzero

@bvckvs @markzero


Actually, it does say so - you just didn't understand what you were reading.  It's the part where they say that sexual orientation occurs along a "continuum".  What that means is that almost no one (if anyone) is locked into any one orientation; that which way they go is a matter of which way they choose.


The continuum means that instead of an either/or gay/straight binary situation, it's somewhere on a line. But thanks for the dismissive insult of my cognitive abilities, anyway.

John1073
John1073

@TheRuddSki GLAAD doesn't speak for the LGBTQ community nor more than anyone else. Queer can be a slur just like any other word. Or it can just be the word that it is. I've met people who refer to themselves as queer and gender queer. 

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